He keeps sending me photos of the meals he’s eaten and his pets, and they come so frequently that I’m at a loss for how to respond.
I like food and animals too, but since he sends them almost every day at all hours, all I can think of saying is, “That looks delicious,” or “How cute.” I’m starting to find it tiring to reply at all.
My own family’s pets are adorable, and I’d love to see photos of them, but honestly, I’m not interested in other people’s pets.
We don’t have the kind of casual relationship where I can say something like, “You can stop sending me photos now, lol,” either…
Would it be okay to just leave his messages on read?
Do you think he’s sending them simply because he wants to show them to me, or is he expecting a response?
I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
I think he’s expecting a reply. Why not take a more transactional view of it and practice or experiment with how to make men like that happy—and how to keep them wrapped around your finger—as a learning experience?
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I’m Meg, a female member.
- It feels like a hassle even to reply.
- Honestly, I’m not interested in other people’s pets.
You probably think I’m a troublesome papa (a male supporter).
But perhaps she isn’t interested in you either.
That said, with fewer new offers because of COVID, you should take good care of valuable connections♪
To avoid finding yourself in a difficult situation later, I suggest taking Princess Nana, whom Joe mentioned, as a reference.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
When a man really likes a woman, he’ll end up contacting her every day.
So, conversely, when a man in a genuine relationship doesn’t keep in touch, the woman may get angry and ask, “Do you really like me?”
I thought maybe leaving her messages on read would be best, but I imagine it’s pretty painful for the person sending them.
So what should you do?
Then I realized:
Just reply with one of Joe’s stickers.
That seems like the best option.
Of course, before long she may say, “Why are you only sending stickers? Give me an actual reply!”
But the strategy even suggests preparing a stock response with that possibility in mind. If you put that into practice too, I think you can maintain the relationship smoothly.
Still, the best solution may be to meet more often, with an allowance paid each time.
That might be the most effective remedy of all.
Meeting about three times a week might be a lot for the woman, but if you see each other that often, you’ll probably exchange fewer other messages.
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I’m Joe, your columnist.
In general, I think it’s fine to leave messages on read.
However, unfortunately, older guys who send LINE messages every day—including me, Joe—tend to get sulky very quickly. It’s a proclivity, not a personality trait (according to Joe’s research), so it’s probably safest to reply.
That’s where stickers come in handy. They take almost no effort.
Even better, you can prepare about ten slightly longer comments in advance and copy and paste them—a devilishly effective method.
My beloved Princess Nana has put this into practice and achieved excellent results (sob—though it’s fake crying).
I hope your relationship remains a peaceful one.
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