Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
Whether a comment is acceptable or not depends on what standards you use to judge it.
Legally, freedom of speech means it would generally be considered acceptable.
However, people are increasingly recognizing that verbal abuse can deeply hurt others. If the comment made the other person uncomfortable, then it could be considered harassment and therefore unacceptable.
That said, this isn’t really about whether it was acceptable or not. The moment a man makes someone uncomfortable, he is no longer being gentlemanly.
With that in mind, I wish men would be more careful about what they say, and that dates could be enjoyable for both people.
You may also want to ask the staff something like:
“I heard that kind of comment was made, and I’m worried. Was anything said about me?”
If you phrase it as, “He said this, so wasn’t that unacceptable?” there’s a possibility they may label you as a difficult customer.
It’s best to calmly state only the facts and explain that you’re simply concerned about whether you were okay.
Separately, you could also send in your feedback and allow it to be published. It may then appear anonymously on the official website.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
If he were truly unpleasant, he’d just leave negative feedback without saying anything—so the fact that he actually tells you is almost endearing in its own way.
Maybe he’s trying to win women over by emphasizing how honest he is. He seems like the type to be petty and persistent, and since most women probably don’t like him anyway, I think that’s why he resorts to these sneaky little tactics.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
What you’re saying to women is rude—completely out of line.
Giving someone a bad rating in retaliation is just petty.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I seem to remember a similar question being asked before. If a male member really likes a particular woman, he may report her to the club without giving her a particularly favorable rating.
If that were true of all such male members, women with low ratings would actually be popular.
Also, women with less favorable ratings are probably attractive, which would mean they receive a lot of offers. As a result, they might get many offers despite having poor ratings, while post-date questionnaires say things like, “He was very gentlemanly, and we agreed to meet again next time.” In other words, the club could end up receiving conflicting feedback from the men and women.
I doubt the club would often reflect such inconsistent feedback directly in a profile.
As for whether it’s acceptable or not, I think it comes down to how you evaluated that male member. Ultimately, the decision is yours.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
It goes against basic morals and etiquette, so it’s a no-go. That’s why you’re asking, right? Wrong is wrong, lol.
What a pathetic little old man with tiny balls...
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I’m Marika, a female member.
Before the man leaves negative feedback with the club, you should report that he told you, “I’m very jealous, so I might say bad things about my favorite girls to the club.”
You should also answer the questionnaire carefully. As for making it public, that’s up to you—I think it may be effective, but if he genuinely liked you, doing so could make it difficult to continue seeing him. In the event of a dispute, I think you should indicate that the club may confirm the details with the other party.
Women shouldn’t just accept whatever they’re told, either. If there are points you can dispute, you should speak up.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
No, seriously—how is that considered okay?
I can’t believe there are people who would make someone feel that uncomfortable. That’s just unacceptable (-""-;)
Please feel free to leave feedback.
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