I’m Meg, a female member.
You’re very welcome~♪
I’m glad I could help.
Also, the jewelry idea you mentioned, Marika—I never would have thought of that either!
It does seem like it could sell for a good price (haha), and it wouldn’t take up much space.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> Even when I show up wearing an outfit he gave me, he doesn’t seem to remember it or react in any particular way, so I became even more confused about why and decided to ask.
I see. In that case, I really can’t say for sure either.
Maybe, just as he says, he simply feels like giving you gifts—that’s how much he likes you. But if that’s the case, wouldn’t it be better to ask for something you actually want?
Why not try asking for something made of pure gold? Asking for an ingot might be a little strange, but you could say that you’d be happy to receive one one-ounce Maple Leaf gold coin every time you meet because then you could keep track of how many times you’ve met.
(Though that’s pretty obvious too, haha.)
Gold seems to have a high resale value, but does he really refuse to buy you anything except clothes?
I’ve heard that once you become a pro at papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), you eventually need another room just to store all the clothes...
I kind of want that to happen to you.
Still, I think it would be fine to sell them after wearing them once.
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I see—that makes sense. Thanks for explaining.
In that case, selling it really does seem like the best option!
Even if you wore it when you met him, he might not remember or notice it, so getting rid of it right away probably wouldn’t be a problem.
As a woman, though, I’d rather receive the money.
From the way you describe things, it doesn’t sound like you’re particularly dissatisfied with the allowance or anything else.
It sounds like he’s already giving you quite a substantial allowance, so perhaps he wants to add shopping or gifts on top of that?
Maybe he feels that the more allowance he gives, the more likely the other person is to dislike him, so he’s looking for another way or reason to give you money?
If that’s the case, it seems like you could even ask him for something quite expensive, like a Rolex.
There are apparently men who will splurge that much after meeting four or five times.
Also, if he’s close to being elderly—as someone in my late 40s, I’m getting to that age myself—men around this age often shift their mindset and start thinking they need to use up their money and time before they die. Spending time working and earning money can start to feel foolish and wasteful, so I think your male companion would be happier if you let him spend plenty of money and time on you. Even if some of it is wasteful, there’s no need to hold back.
I think it’s perfectly fine to steer him toward spending money on things that interest you and suit your needs.
Lessons, esthetic treatments, hair removal, laser treatments, beauty services…
Or you could say you want a dog.
With someone you met outside a club, going to a luxury spa’s couples’ room can be fun, but I wonder how that would work with someone from a club.
You could meet more frequently, even if it’s only for 30 minutes or an hour at a time, and he might still give you a reasonable allowance.
P.S.
Even if someone wore the jewelry I bought her the next time we met, or came wearing clothes I bought her, I wouldn’t know whether they were the things I had purchased. And even if I suspected they were, I’d be embarrassed if I got it wrong, so I wouldn’t ask her myself.
Even if a club girl wore jewelry every time we met, I wouldn’t remember it. Unlike with a girlfriend, I don’t feel any need to remember those things, and I’m simply not interested in them.
If he doesn’t notice whether you wear the things he bought you, he may not have any interest in or attachment to shopping and material goods.
So if he’s going to spend the same amount of money, he probably thinks it’s better to spend it on something that makes you happy.
In that respect, esthetic and beauty treatments are easier for him to pay for because he can frame them as something “for you.”
