Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here as well.
> If you’ve heard of or dealt with any problems regarding online dates, I’d appreciate it if you could share them.
Apparently, some women say things like:
“Don’t I get travel expenses?
In that case, I’ll pass.”
Well, we explain during the interview that they’ll always receive ¥5,000–¥10,000 in travel expenses if they go on a date, so I think it’s only natural. (笑)
I can understand the women’s point of view, too.
To begin with, hardly any women would want to register without receiving any money—probably around 0.1% at most—so I think most women would prefer to meet and talk in person.
More than anything, though, I think they accept online dates because they hope they might be able to meet in person afterward.
Of course, it’s entirely up to the woman whether she accepts the offer. If she feels she can convey her appeal online, she should go ahead and accept it.
If she feels she can’t convey her appeal unless they meet in person, she can simply decline. In that case, she could send something like:
“I feel that we won’t be able to get to know each other better unless we meet in person. Would it be possible for us to meet directly?”
They’ll probably decline right away, but there’s also a chance they might say, “In that case, let’s meet.”
And if a man says he can’t meet in person, I’d assume he’s just being stingy because the setting fee won’t be reduced by half. (笑)
(The setting fee for an online date is half price.)
Online dates have both advantages and disadvantages, so I think it’s best to consider what works for you.
I’m a male member who goes by “Paper Airplane.”
Recently, I’ve been hearing from some club women I haven’t seen in a long time (not that we’re meeting), and I’ve been telling myself that many women may be eagerly waiting for offers at a time like this.
I’m now standing right at the starting line, wondering whether I should break the taboo and make an offer for an online date. (Though I keep telling myself it isn’t really a date.)
So I asked the staff various questions and narrowed down the women I might approach with online offers all at once.
For women, there’s the reassurance of being able to see what the man looks like. On the other hand, to receive an allowance, they have to share their contact information and try to move things forward.
So this could be seen as both an advantage and a disadvantage for men and women alike.
In my case, I probably wouldn’t make an offer for a regular date, so from the women’s perspective—and overall—the number of offers would increase by that amount.
Also, because online meetings are time-efficient, the number of offers could increase fourfold or sixfold (perhaps even tenfold?).
For men, I feel the biggest advantage is being able to exchange contact information during an online date, decide whether to continue seeing someone without having to set aside time for an actual date, and narrow things down from among several women.
The disadvantage is that it may be difficult to create the same kind of excitement as an in-person meeting.
For women, there is the disadvantage of not receiving an allowance and having to share their contact information in order to move things forward, even though there’s no guarantee it will lead to a next meeting.
However, online meetings are also very time-efficient for women. Since they’re easy to arrange, the number of offers will likely increase, which could ultimately be considered an advantage.
Being able to see a man’s appearance and facial expressions in advance is another benefit for women.
