I’d like to stay with one woman for a long time. Are there any tips?

I’m Meg, a female member. 1. Allowance Please don’t lowball me♪ 2. Our personalities and compatibility As long as you keep in mind that I come first, that’s fine. I thought the answers from the male respondents were excellent! Especially Flag Maker’s comment: > If your goal (or end goal) is to make things last, don’t make unreasonable demands, don’t expect too much from your partner, treat her like a gentleman, don’t do things she dislikes, and pay the allowance she wants. If you do that, you can make things last with any woman. I completely agree.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > How should I think about points 1 and 2? As for whether a relationship will last, if you naturally want to stay together because you like the other person, it won’t last unless they feel the same way about you. So I think the key to making it last is being able to put yourself in the other person’s shoes. 1. Regarding the allowance, you can understand what’s reasonable by asking yourself how you would feel if you were the one receiving it. If you’re unsure, I think it’s fine to ask the other person how much they want. 2. As for your personalities and compatibility, if you get along well, things will work out naturally without having to overthink them. That said, I don’t think anyone is going to be a perfect 100% match. The question is whether you still want to be with someone like that. If you do, try to think from their perspective. That’s how I see it. Of course, there are also men so attractive that women won’t leave them even if they do nothing, allowing them to maintain a long-term relationship effortlessly. I think it’s best to start by figuring out which type you are.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I only see one person at a time, but regarding what Flag Maker said: “If the relationship continues because you feel the companionship is worth the allowance and other terms, or that you’re getting an appropriate return, what do you think?” ↑ I think it comes down to whether you can compromise on that. As everyone says, don’t expect perfection! I have one more point to add: There are plenty of wonderful women on the site, and new ones keep joining, but while you’re seeing someone, don’t make any more offers! If you can do that, you’ll be fine. You’ll want to make offers, of course… but you have to restrain yourself. Since you’re not seeing anyone else, the relationship continues… lol The same goes for women. They hold back from pursuing other beautiful women—or rather, I’ve already been fairly selective when making the offer… If another offer comes along, they may go with that instead, especially if the man is better than me. Since they aren’t seeing anyone else either, the relationship continues… lol ↑ Or is that just me? Maybe it’s because I’m an old guy… lol Once you’ve been seeing each other for more than six months, you get comfortable with one another and can communicate almost without words, which makes things easy. But they’ll have you by the balls, so you need to be able to put up with that too. lol

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. If your goal—or endgame—is to make things last, then I think any woman can maintain a long-term arrangement as long as you don’t make unreasonable demands, don’t expect too much from her, treat her like a gentleman, don’t do things she dislikes, and pay the allowance she’s asking for. If you can do all that, then ultimately, I think whether things last depends on you—the man. That said, if the relationship is expected to last based on getting something in return that matches the allowance, or on feeling that the arrangement is worth it, then what do you think? In the end, wouldn’t it come down to compatibility?

I’m Basil, a male member. Men tend to start with 5) appearance and 4) age, then gradually place more importance on 2) personality and compatibility. Women tend to focus more on the financial aspects, such as 1) the allowance and 3) how often they meet. There are exceptions and minimum standards, of course, but even if a man has a great personality and appearance, she’ll say goodbye if he doesn’t pay. Likewise, no matter how much money a man has, he’ll drop her if he no longer finds her attractive. In short, the key to making it last is finding the right match between financial means and feminine appeal.

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane. At a club, if a man likes a woman after seeing her for a few months, the relationship will naturally continue for a long time. So if things aren’t lasting very long, you may want to completely change the way you interact with them. If your approach changes, you should be able to clear point 2 as well. As for the allowance in point 1, as long as both sides agree, I don’t think it has a major impact on whether the relationship continues long-term. If there is one key point regarding point 1, it’s this: Women generally expect their allowance to increase the longer things continue—and that’s even more true when it comes to clubs. So if you meet those expectations and bring them happiness from the first or second month onward, without being arrogant about it, I don’t see any reason why things wouldn’t continue. P.S. To “Epic Papa-katsu Gentleman”: > If you try to give overwhelmingly from the start, > you’ll often get taken advantage of. Even so, > you keep giving first. That’s a great line! I really like it. Because you’re willing to give without asking for anything in return—believing that things will work out, even if you might get deceived. That’s where possibilities begin to emerge. In my own words: “If you do the opposite of what you want, what you want will eventually come back to you (and the other person will start doing what you hope they will).” Whether it’s work, papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan), or romance, I feel that those who keep planting seeds even when there are no guarantees are the ones who eventually enjoy a great harvest.