I’m the person who asked the previous question after receiving an offer for Type A.
I was embarrassed because my question had so many typos,
but thank you so much for all the answers!
Since I post that I only do dinner dates in my videos and profile, I want to do my best to continue things with the person who made me an offer.
There’s something else I’d like to ask that I couldn’t find an answer to online, so I’m asking here.
(Sorry if I used the wrong tag.)
When meeting someone for the first time after receiving a dinner-only (no intimacy) offer, is it better for the woman to bring as little luggage as possible?
We’re supposed to have dinner, but since it’s my day off, I was thinking of doing some shopping beforehand…
It would only be one paper shopping bag, but would a man think,
“Did she meet someone else first and get this as a gift?”
If so, I’m thinking of leaving it in a station locker or somewhere similar.
Women, I’d also love to hear if you’ve had an experience like this.
I’m Meg, a female member.
That’s exactly what だて◎ゆめさん said.
> You’re here to go on a date.
> You’re not just stopping by on your way home from shopping.
They put it very kindly.
Also, if it looks like you have a lot of bags, wouldn’t that make it less likely that your date will feel comfortable taking you shopping?
This may be a bit of a stretch, but rather than approaching the date with a “me” attitude, let’s go with a “we” mindset.
One thing often reflects everything else (*^^*)
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
If it’s someone you’re meeting for the first time, or someone you haven’t met many times yet, I think it’s better not to bring it.
I doubt many men would assume you got it from someone else, but some might wonder, “Why did she bring luggage?”
So if you’re willing to leave it in a locker, I think that would be best.
That said, sometimes a man will come by car and offer to drive you home. In that case, you may have to reveal that you actually left your luggage in a locker and will be taking the train home.
(If you turn him down for no apparent reason, it could affect your relationship going forward.)
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I prefer to keep my belongings simple!
I don’t think you should carry shopping bags with you.
The reason is simple:
You’re here to go on a date.
You’re not just stopping by on your way home from shopping.（笑)
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I’m Basil, a male member.
If it’s just one bag, I don’t think you need to worry about it. I’ve even met someone who brought several shopping bags to our first meeting.
You’re asking in that slightly concerned, innocent way—it’s refreshing. Don’t ever lose that feeling.
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I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Sorry this is such a generic answer, but I think it’s safest to take it directly to men who seem trustworthy, and leave it in a coin locker for men who seem potentially dangerous.
You’ll have to use your own judgment to tell the difference.
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I’m Kami-hikōki, a male member.
For a first date, it’s probably best to leave your belongings in a locker if possible and travel light.
If it’s just one paper shopping bag, it can naturally become part of the conversation that day, so I don’t think it would be a problem.
That said, depending on what’s inside—especially if it’s a brand-name item—it might not give the best impression.
It’s hard to imagine someone bringing something they were given as a present, so even if you bring a gift yourself, they may not necessarily take it that way.
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