Sorry for the long post (; ;)

Nice to meet you. My name is Ayano Haneda from SALON. I get the impression that many SALON members are looking for someone they can build a long-term relationship with. Unless you’re exceptionally appealing, bringing up money right from the start tends to push them away. I think it’s better to establish a solid rapport first and then discuss the terms of the arrangement. The fact that things continue over the long term is probably proof of your appeal as a woman. Ayano Haneda

I’m Meg, a female member. Sozetsu-san’s opinion was very clear and easy to understand—great insight! I’m still a new employee myself, just a rookie. I definitely don’t have the time or energy for a second or even third job (^_^;) You never know when you might be let go at any company, so for now, I’m focusing on not upsetting the president, building up a track record, and working hard so that I’ll be recognized as someone valuable. > Instead of taking something for yourself first, give the other person about 20 before taking 1 for yourself. That’s deep… Everyone’s opinions have given me a lot of options to consider, but I think I’d rather wait and see a little longer.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ You can solve the problem by pretending nothing happened and seeing another man as well. There’s no particular reason you need to explain yourself, is there?

I’m Basil, a male member. I do think it’s best to assume that most men will eventually get bored. Are you a member of the salon as well? If you were accepted by the salon, I imagine you must be extremely attractive. As for both parts of your question, if money is your goal, why not take a transactional approach and see it as something to deal with if you’re found out, while also seeing other men at the same time?

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I’m worried that the more money someone has, the more people they can choose from, so he might cut me off right away. I’m guessing you haven’t been cut off by anyone you’ve seen before, but you’re anxious because this is your first man who can afford to register with SALON. That said, I think there’s always a risk of being cut off, regardless of who you’re seeing. You may be worried, but while being prepared for the possibility that it could end, I think it’s best to continue seeing him with the same—or even greater—level of sincerity as before. > Does it really depend on the person? I think it varies from person to person. > Or should I wait a little longer and, if he’s still willing to see me, bring it up then? I think that would be better. However, as I mentioned before, most men prefer to continue seeing someone under the terms agreed on at the beginning. Once the subject of changing those terms comes up, they may start thinking about looking for another woman who would be a better fit for them. For that reason, I think you should continue seeing this man under the current terms, while also looking for another papa (a male supporter). There’s also a risk that the relationship could end if he finds out. And if the allowance per meeting is good, I understand why you might feel bad about it. When it comes to the terms the man has offered, it seems you ultimately have to either accept them as they are or tell him what you want while being prepared for the relationship to fall apart. That said, once you’ve been seeing each other for a while, it might be acceptable to say something like, “I’m a little short this month. Could we meet one more time?” But if you’ve only just started seeing each other, I think that would be difficult.

I’m a male member, “Paper Airplane.” It depends on the person, but I think it’s best to meet several times without overthinking it. As you spend more time together, you’ll gradually get a sense of whether you’re compatible. If you rush things, I think the outcome you want will only become more distant. > What would a man think if I honestly explained my reasons to him? I think it would be better to meet a few more times first, and then talk about how much you’re hoping to receive per month. The more often you meet, the better. If he likes you, he may even give you more than you hoped for upfront, even if you can’t meet that often. To make that happen, don’t overthink things—just focus on enjoying your time together. If you naturally manage to meet six or seven times, I think you’ll be able to talk openly about how you both feel. From the way you’re feeling now, though, I get the impression that you may start looking elsewhere before you get that far. Since you’re the one who determines the outcome, the most important thing is not to rush and to give yourself a little more emotional breathing room. That’s what I felt from your message.