Tips Mar 14, 2020 16:18

I'm a male member.

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About a month ago, I went on a first date arranged through the club with a woman, and we've been seeing each other in an ongoing adult relationship ever since. Shortly after we started seeing each other regularly, she disappeared from the “Female Members List” on my screen. Does this mean that she has withdrawn from the club—or gone on hiatus? Or is it possible, at her request, to hide her only from my screen? In other words, could she have been hidden from me so that I wouldn't think, “Even though we've started seeing each other regularly, is she still waiting for offers from other male members?” while remaining visible to other male members and still able to receive offers?
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Age: Private 👨 Male Universe staff
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. I may have already written far too much about this, but Universe’s official response was, I believe, as follows: Like Google, the site has a feature that displays information based on the individual user, so a woman’s profile may stop appearing. Because of that, it’s impossible to tell whether she has withdrawn or her profile simply stopped being displayed, and we can’t answer even if asked. Sorry if I’ve got that wrong. Also, if you’re actually seeing someone, you can simply ask her directly. Her answer is all that matters. There’s no point in suspecting that the truth might be different. Just accept what she tells you and continue seeing her. You’re currently able to be together. I think that alone is more than enough. What more do you need? I believe you should focus on making her want you to be the one man she chooses.
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Meg
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Age: 50s 👩 Female Former Universe member
I’m Meg, a female member. I didn’t realize there was also an option to hide your profile from a specific man—learn something new, I guess. I went on hiatus after my papa (a male supporter) told me there was a suspension option. I suppose it depends on what you’ve discussed with the other person up to that point, but if nothing like that had ever come up, you’d naturally find it strange if they suddenly disappeared. You’d wonder why. Maybe you start to understand these things after being active in the club for a long time. I’m devoted to my papa, so if I were a man in the opposite position, I think I’d find the whole “hiding your profile” thing pretty calculated—and probably dislike it quite a bit. Once you start getting suspicious, there’s no end to it, though...
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. As far as I know, it’s possible to hide your profile not only when withdrawing or taking a leave of absence, but also from specific men. Why not check with the branch where you registered, just to make sure? They may not tell you everything outright, but try to read between the lines of the conversation. P.S. Paper Airplane, you really don’t need to worry at all. Once you’ve been seeing someone for a long time, you can tell whether they’ve actually withdrawn or taken a leave of absence(笑). That’s part of the fun, too. You start by trusting them, and then end up thinking, “So that’s how it is after all…”(笑) That’s fine in itself, but then she’ll grab you firmly and never let go(笑). Even if you say, “Could you loosen your grip a little?” she won’t relax her hold. It can be a bit troublesome, but in its own way, it feels pretty good too…(笑)
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Age: Private 👨 Male Universe member
I’m Kamihikoki, a male member. In that case, it’s probably either a withdrawal or a temporary leave of absence. You’ll know which one when you ask her the next time you see her. If she mentioned that she won’t be accepting any more offers, then she probably did it because she no longer needs them. If she didn’t mention anything about withdrawing, then either she’s seeing only you, or she has multiple partners and no longer needs to accept offers, or she’s become too busy to take on any new offers. P.S. Date◎Yume Wait—wow, that’s scary. Does that really happen? Even with people they’re currently seeing? Not just in special cases, like someone being prohibited at the time of registration or having caused problems?? But yeah, I suppose you wouldn’t quietly withdraw or take a leave without telling anyone. Since it looks like you’ve been meeting several times a month on an ongoing basis, it wouldn’t be surprising if the subject of withdrawing came up. Hopefully you just forgot to mention it in your question. P.P.S. Just joined You’re probably trying to get a date within a few days of joining, before you even learn the tricks of the trade. Once a week has passed since joining, getting that first date becomes more difficult. That said, if she never told you she was withdrawing or taking a leave, there’s no need for you to check her profile, so you don’t have to worry about it.
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