I’m Meg, one of the female members.
Even if you live with your parents, it can still be hard to talk to them about something like this, right? If you live alone, I’m sure it must have felt even more frightening and overwhelming.
If you were my daughter living far away, I think I would say something like this:
“That must have been really hard. You were worrying about it all by yourself, weren’t you? Thank you for telling me. Does it still hurt? Go see a doctor, take your medication properly, and don’t push yourself too hard.
While you still have symptoms, it’s fine to take things slowly. But if you’re taking medication, you’ll need to try to keep a regular routine.
Anyway, if anything is troubling you, don’t hesitate to tell me anytime. I’m sorry I can’t be there with you.”
Of course, you should take your medication and focus on your treatment, but I don’t think you need to be unnecessarily afraid.
For all I know, I might have it too—I may simply have no noticeable symptoms right now.
There’s a possibility it could recur for you, but there’s also a possibility it won’t. Doctors have to tell patients the worst-case scenario because of their professional responsibilities.
If you really do have to live with herpes for the rest of your life, let’s think of ways to keep “the herpes” quiet and under control (*^^*)
How?
・Maintain a regular routine
・Don’t let stress build up
・Be grateful for feeling well (and remember that it isn’t something to take for granted)
Let’s keep both your body and mind positive♪
I hope you feel better soon.
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
There’s nothing you can do about having gotten infected. You need to start treatment as soon as possible. You should also contact your partner promptly so they can begin treatment as well.
As everyone has said, please go to a specialist for treatment. As for follow-up care, Mack is probably right, but please follow the guidance of a dermatologist or other medical professional in your daily life.
It’s not an especially frightening disease, but the fact that it stays with you for life is what makes it troublesome…
P.S.
Please report it to the club so the damage doesn’t spread.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here.
I’m not a doctor, so I don’t know whether there’s a way to make it heal faster, but I think the first thing you should do is go to a hospital. Getting treatment should be your priority. You’d be better off going to the hospital and getting it treated.
While you’re there, you could ask the doctor any questions you have, which may help clear things up.
Also, if you provide feedback, it may be possible to stop the male supporter from going on any more dates.
Of course, your profile may be hidden temporarily as well, but once you’ve gone to the hospital and recovered, I think you should be able to return.
However, if the staff handling the matter are biased toward the man, he might claim that the woman was the one who infected him, and they might believe him. So it’s difficult to say for certain that you’ll definitely be able to return.
Even so, I think you should report which man it was, so that there won’t be any more victims.
I’m not completely sure, but if it’s herpes, wouldn’t it be noticeable just by looking? You should carefully check the other person’s private area, and if anything seems even slightly unusual, I think it’s better to stop—even if you feel it might be rude or worry that you could be mistaken.
You could apologize and say you’re sorry, then stop even if the date is already underway.
It would be good if you could both get tested and then talk about enjoying yourselves once you’re reassured by the results.
Of course, the other person may stop inviting you afterward. But if that happens, it also means you’ve learned that they didn’t care about you that much in the first place.
