I’m a female member.

I’m Joe, a columnist. First, let me share the very first thought that came to mind when I read this question: Are you kidding me?! At the same time, I also thought that you must be a kind-hearted and captivating woman. I’m something of a show-off myself, so I understand how you feel, but worrying about the survey is utterly ridiculous. If papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) requires any kind of skill, I think the most important one is being able to clearly tell the other person when your answer is no. Isn’t it embarrassing to be unable to say no just because someone is loud or overbearing? I’m saying this as a reminder to myself too, but do you really want to become a woman who can’t stand up for herself? I may sound a little high-handed, but even after reading this from me, you don’t need to reflect too deeply. I think you’re already a very attractive woman just as you are. You just need to work a little on having the courage to communicate your feelings to the other person. The “self-improvement” that female members often talk about includes this kind of ability too, I believe. I hope you continue to have wonderful encounters and fulfilling relationships.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I don’t pay much attention to women’s questionnaire responses. If the feedback is too positive, I actually start to think, “She seems a little too professional for me.” I might avoid someone with feedback about poor manners, being late, or canceling, but if the feedback says something like “She may not be very open to an adult relationship (intimate),” I’d actually take that positively. I think it depends on the male member and how he interprets it.

I’m Basil, a male member. Do they really place much importance on the survey results? Other than when I first joined, I’ve never filled one out in the first place. When the club confirms the schedule, they send a standard request to complete a survey, but I’ve never been asked to do one after a date. I assume that unless there’s a major complaint, they probably don’t have enough time to follow up on what happens after the date. That said, I can’t speak for dates with men from smaller branches that have more staff availability.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > I’m worried that if I turn down any future dates on the spot, he might write something negative about me in the survey, so I can’t say no. If you don’t feel comfortable with someone, please feel free to turn them down without worrying about it. Since this is based on free choice, it’s entirely up to you what you decide to do. Worried they might write something negative in the survey? For example, even if we receive feedback saying that a woman turned him down, if we know that he has been intimate with other women, we simply conclude that he may not have approached this particular woman in the right way and leave it at that. As long as you’ve handled things appropriately, there’s absolutely no need to worry. As a precaution, women can also send feedback, so I recommend making sure to send it after every date. If you add something like, “He was a nice person, so I ended up going to a hotel with him,” the staff will understand that things were okay with this man, but that another man simply wasn’t a good match. That alone can make a big difference in how reassured you feel. Likewise, if you turn someone down, you could send feedback saying, “He was a nice person, but men with beards aren’t really my type, so I had to turn him down.” That way, the staff will understand that you simply happened not to be compatible. So please don’t worry about it too much. I hope you’ll only pursue arrangements with people you feel you can trust.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. As I wrote in my answer to today’s question about forced termination, I’m very grateful to the club overall, but the one thing I can’t accept is that men’s feedback seems to be reflected almost entirely one-sidedly. At times, it feels as though the club’s attitude is that women can simply leave if they don’t like it, which I find disappointing. I wouldn’t mind if that were only the case when the woman was at fault, but unfortunately, that doesn’t always seem to be true... The term “relationship-type fraud” also seems to have been coined by men themselves. Honestly, I almost wish men who make complaints like that would receive a penalty as severe as forced termination.