A male member recently had unprotected sex with me.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. Recently, a woman came to me with a pretty serious problem: she had become unexpectedly pregnant and suddenly had to make all kinds of difficult decisions. After hanging up, I felt so unsettled that I went to karaoke alone, so I’m a little sensitive to topics like “going raw” right now. For women, anything that could lead to pregnancy is incredibly serious—far more serious than men tend to realize. Going raw without consent is absolutely unacceptable, and frankly, it feels barbaric. That said, there are still a certain number of men who prefer going raw, both inside and outside dating clubs. Realistically, I think the choices are either to protect yourself or take legal action. Unfortunately…

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. I’m honestly shocked that a man like this is still a member. First, please send feedback to the branch office. If they verify the facts, the man may realize which woman reported him. However, unless you answer “yes” when asked whether they may verify the facts, they won’t be able to question him. As with anything, it’s necessary to hear both sides before making a judgment, so they will verify the facts with the man as well. Ideally, if every encounter were recorded, it wouldn’t become a case of conflicting accounts. However, since there usually isn’t any evidence, they can’t forcibly terminate the man’s membership. (Having evidence would make that more likely.) That said, men like this will do the same thing to other women. If similar feedback comes from other women, it can clearly be inferred that he is ignoring women’s wishes. But without evidence, the first step will be a serious warning. If similar feedback continues after that, the process will lead to forced termination of his membership. One more thing: if you’re still angry with the man, please report it immediately. There may still be bodily fluids from the man inside you, so we should first try to secure that evidence. Then please retain a lawyer. There are lawyers who support women, and with a capable lawyer like that, you can file a criminal complaint—although there is almost no chance of winning the criminal case, it’s a necessary strategy for gaining an advantage in a civil lawsuit—and then sue him civilly as well. You may be able to recover around ¥2–4 million. I don’t think that amount would fully ease your anger, but it may still help you protect yourself emotionally to some extent. Also, going forward, you should be firm and say: “If you won’t use a condom, I won’t have sex with you. If you penetrate me, I’ll report it as rape.” (The legal term is now “non-consensual sexual intercourse.”) Men sometimes convince themselves that it’s fine not to use a condom because the woman has agreed to the encounter. Clearly stating that you refuse unless a condom is used is necessary to protect yourself, so I think you should make it clear that this is one point you will not compromise on. Regarding “requests to use condoms,” there’s no problem as long as both the man and woman agree. This time, the problem is that there was no agreement. In any case, I wish men who try to force themselves on someone without consent would disappear from Universe.

I’m Meg, one of the female members. This isn’t something that can simply be brushed off with, “That must have been tough.” I know that feeling when the anger slowly starts bubbling up afterward… I really do. You’re left feeling anxious until your next period comes. Men just don’t understand. Since sending a mass message would probably be difficult, as Papuwa suggested, you’ll have to protect yourself by taking the pill or taking other precautions. You’ve reflected on what happened, so this time, let’s make sure you communicate your terms firmly. I hope your anxiety is relieved as soon as possible.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > A little while ago, a male member had sex with me without a condom. I asked him to use one properly, but he wouldn’t listen, and it ended up being more or less against my will. First, please contact the branch where you registered. He shouldn’t have done something you clearly didn’t want. I believe the club should record this in the comments from the time he made the offer and take steps to prevent similar incidents in the future. > I’ve probably also been infected with an STD. I’m seeing other male members as well, so this is causing me serious trouble. Please seek medical attention immediately and get tested for STDs. To prevent the infection from spreading, please avoid seeing the men you’re dating until you receive the test results. Also, promptly inform anyone who may have infected you that they might be at risk and urge them to see a doctor. It will probably be difficult for the person who asked this question to notify everyone involved, so please focus on protecting the health and safety of the people closest to you. For now, wait for the club’s response.

I’m Basil, a male member. That sounds like quite an ordeal. However, given the club’s stated premise of “free love,” I don’t think it would be realistic to make such a demand of the club. Some men are unable to control themselves due to a certain instinct, so please consider carefully whether you want to continue participating while taking these kinds of risks into account. Sorry for the predictable comment. P.S. The man in question has probably seen this post and thought something along the lines of, “If she started doing this for the money and accepts an allowance, she should understand men’s desires and be prepared to take on this level of risk.” While I agree that this incident went too far, I imagine most men at the club feel that way to some extent. (By “desires,” I don’t mean going bare.) Please weigh the various risks and things you can’t tolerate against the money before continuing.