I know I’ll probably get criticized for this, but when someone offers me 30,000 yen during allowance...

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I know I’ll probably get criticized for this, but when someone offers me 30,000 yen during allowance negotiations, I tend to hold back during the adult relationship. I’ve even made strange rules, like refusing oral sex unless it’s 50,000 yen or more (though it sometimes depends on the person). I end up accepting arrangements even when the allowance isn’t enough for me, so I suppose I’m partly to blame too… Am I the only one who’s had experiences like this?

バジル · Answer

I’m Basil, a male member.

Men also rank women differently, so if you treat them carelessly, they’ll eventually cut you off. If the lower-paying ones disappear and you’re satisfied, I think that’s perfectly fine.

Personally, I like receiving oral sex, so I probably end up keeping my distance from women who aren’t into it. Maybe it’s a reaction to the fact that the girl I seriously dated when I was younger wasn’t.

Everyone I’ve met through the club has been willing to do it. Lately, when they don’t, I find it harder and harder to get in the mood.

I think most men probably like it.

前澤 · Answer

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.

I don’t think there’s anything here that warrants criticism.

As long as both parties are satisfied with the arrangement, it’s fine. Naturally, anyone would feel disappointed if the allowance were low.

Ideally, if you’re not satisfied with the allowance, I think you should turn it down. But if going through with it is necessary to protect your own feelings, then I think it’s okay to proceed.

Few people show what they truly feel inside, so I can’t say whether everyone feels the same way.

Try not to worry about it too much. Instead, think about what would be best for you—something you won’t regret and can genuinely feel comfortable with.

I hope that someday you’ll meet such a wonderful papa (a male supporter) that you won’t have to worry about things like this.

西中 恵 · Answer

I’m Meg, a female member.

I’m the type who goes all out to please my papa, so I’m different from you, but I wanted to say something.

A lot of people do papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan) as a job, right? If that’s the case, I can understand why you’d want to set your own rules like that. Especially younger women often seem to put up with quite a lot and accommodate their papas.

All the men answering here seem very gentlemanly, but apparently there are also some truly clueless guys in these clubs.

That said, I do wonder what would happen if a papa saw the way you handled things and realized, “This person only does a half-hearted job.” If you conduct yourself properly, you might meet a man who will value and cherish you without you having to put up with anything. (*^^*)

紙ひこうき · Answer

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.

Since it’s a club, there are times when both sides may take things a little too casually.

An allowance of 30,000 yen could also be a sign that she wasn’t putting in much effort.

Maybe she wasn’t that interested in you, maybe she’s used to getting low-effort treatment herself, or maybe she’s simply short on money and stingy…

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