Why do men—especially papa (male supporters)—like touching nipples so much? I’m touched there continuously for over an hour during intimate time, and it feels like they’re about to come off. Even when I say I don’t like it, they take it as me enjoying it. Of course, I’m okay with it since I receive an allowance, but I just found it strange.

I’m Marika, a female member. As Paper Airplane said, he probably assumes that if it feels good to him, it must feel good to women too. A while back, a man kept putting his finger in my ear and rummaging around. I found it really annoying, but one time I licked his ear instead, and he reacted incredibly strongly. It was basically the opposite of what I wanted him to do! To get him to stop with the nipple play, I think you should tell him clearly that it really hurts. Then, while things are going on, guide him by telling him what feels good and where. When I’m with a man I especially like, I’ll ask him, “Please bite my ___.” I think men probably enjoy seeing a woman respond, so if you ask him during sex, he’ll most likely do it. If the woman isn’t enjoying herself too, I don’t think the man will be happy just knowing she’s enduring it for the allowance.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here with an answer as well. > Why do men—especially papas—like touching nipples so much? Especially papas? I see… So boyfriends around your age don’t touch them that much, but many older papas seem to enjoy it. I’m not entirely sure why, but perhaps as men get older, simply having an adult relationship (intimate) isn’t always enough anymore, and they start wanting to enjoy things in various ways? And maybe you have particularly appealing breasts, so they can’t help touching them. Still, not your breasts in general, but your nipples? To the point where you feel like they might come off? I suppose that’s what they like… We have some real boob enthusiasts among our members, so I’d love to have one of them answer this question passionately. >.<

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. You don’t have to put up with it until you can’t take it anymore（笑） Just say, “Touch me here instead of my nipples.” Then they’ll start touching you there（笑） After a little while, guide them by saying, “Now, over here.” Have fun and enjoy yourselves together.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. Isn’t their thought process probably just: “I want to get her nipples hard” → keeps touching them → they get hard → “She’s enjoying it! I’m so happy! YATTA!” → “Huh, they went soft” → “I want to get them hard again” → keeps touching them → they get hard → “She’s enjoying it! I’m so happy! YATTA!” I think they probably just enjoy touching nipples. If they could use Izanami, the ocular jutsu used by Itachi in NARUTO, they could trap someone in an infinite loop of having their nipples touched inside an illusion. But unfortunately, that’s not possible in real life, so if you don’t like it, just say so. Sorry for the silly answer lol.

I’m a male member, “Kamihikoki.” Unless you clearly tell him, “I don’t get pleasure from nipple stimulation,” or “I hate having my nipples touched—please stop,” I don’t think he’ll understand. He probably hasn’t figured out which other areas feel good for you. If you don’t clearly tell him that you dislike having your nipples touched and guide him toward the areas you prefer, you’ll just have to keep enduring it. Most likely, he simply enjoys having his own nipples touched so much that he’d be delighted if you returned the favor. A lot of men like having their nipples played with! Women are sensitive, and nipples can be quite difficult to stimulate properly. Many women don’t feel much from it, either. Since men feel good when their own nipples are touched, they can easily assume women feel the same way. You may need to say clearly that you dislike it before he understands. If you only say it hurts, he might think he should change his technique or wait a while and try again later… P.S. Papuwa-san, It feels good for men—we could happily have them touched nonstop. The way to touch a woman’s nipples is much more difficult than stimulating the clitoris or other intimate areas. Even my longtime girlfriend got angry with me countless times over how I touched her nipples… And since other areas felt better for her anyway, there was no need to spend so much time on them. There are plenty of women who simply dislike it altogether. P.P.S. By the way, more than an hour?! How long does the whole thing actually go on? If it’s an hour of pointless discomfort, wouldn’t it be better to have him give you a massage instead? You could genuinely say things like, “You’re good at this!” and “I want you to keep going.” Even getting a normal massage for close to an hour would probably help you relax, make it easier to enjoy the rest, relieve your fatigue, and turn the experience into two or three benefits at once instead of pure discomfort. Also, men tend to think of breasts and nipples as the female equivalent of male genitals, even though they’re actually more comparable to the clitoris and other intimate areas. So they may assume women feel pleasure from them in the same way men do. Since men enjoy having their nipples touched, they’re even more likely to misunderstand… But are breasts really there so that men can look at and touch them and get aroused?

I’m Meg, a female member. “Looks like it might come off”? That poor thing… If it hurts and you don’t like it, you should just tell him so. Just because you’re receiving an allowance doesn’t mean you have to put up with that much. That gentleman must be especially fond of it. You wouldn’t want him to mistakenly think you’re enjoying it, though. (^_^;)