Maezawa from the Strategic Planning Office will answer as well.
SALON doesn’t have member profiles, so we don’t use the concept of relationship types.
Since you meet and talk in person, you can directly gauge how proactive someone is at that time.
That said, if a man says he prefers women who are fairly proactive, the staff will likely select someone proactive for him. But some men may prefer women who aren’t that way.
SALON introduces people who seem compatible, based on each person’s preferences.
I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I’m not a SALON member, so I don’t really know, but I get the impression that SALON’s philosophy is probably somewhat—or perhaps quite—different from yours.
The best thing to do is call them and ask（笑）
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
I think it’s perfectly natural for you to wonder why things suddenly came to a complete stop afterward.
Based on what you wrote:
If it were me, I’d feel that a woman’s best chance of getting noticed while listed as “secret” is during the first month.
At first, men may think, “She must be a special, wonderful woman,” and assume she’ll find a great man within a month. If she doesn’t, they may start wondering whether there’s some reason—or whether she’s simply leftover inventory.
If that impression takes hold, the staff may lose the confidence to introduce her.
At first, being both a “new member!” and a secret listing will probably appeal to men, but after that, unless the feedback is exceptionally positive, I don’t think the staff will be very motivated to make introductions.
As for intimacy, a high-spec man will probably also have the emotional leeway to handle things well, so I don’t think you need to worry too much about that. What matters more is how much value he sees in you and whether he wants to continue the relationship.
Judging from your wording, I think you may need to realize that things don’t always proceed according to your preferences.
Ultimately, I believe it all depends on you.
P.S. Also, the person you would genuinely like may be anywhere from the Gold membership tier to the salon, so you have no way of knowing where he is.
When profiles are public, men choose based on their preferences, so the approval rate is around 70–80%, and it then depends on the woman. With introductions, however, the chances of a man liking you drop to just a few percent—similar to an arranged match—unless you’re an exceptionally appealing woman.
When you say “a man you would genuinely like,” do you mean a popular, wonderful man?
We men have to pay the club to have women introduced to us. If you think calmly about whether there really are men you would like among those who are willing to pay even more money to meet women, I think you’ll find the answer.
As the saying goes, “Chasing two rabbits catches neither.” The fact that you’re still listed as secret suggests that unless you only seek high-spec men, you may never find or settle on a realistic destination.
P.P.S. Since I’ve written this much, I’ll also share something close to my honest opinion: suddenly getting no offers after one month—that’s just how it works, especially for women.
I’m a man, but I continued making offers for about three weeks after joining. Since I don’t currently need to, I haven’t made any more offers.
The three women I see every week as my main partners were all women I met on their first date, and most had joined only a few days earlier. I also see several others about once a month. Among them, some voluntarily left the club or took a break because they no longer needed to accept other offers.
The reality is that there’s a huge difference in freshness between a woman who joined within the past month and one who has been active for several months.
For women in particular, I think the first month or two is a major window of opportunity.
Even now, if you make your profile public, I think you still have significant opportunities during your first one, two, or three months.
However, if you remain secret, then since you’ve already gone through your first month, it seems impossible to turn back the clock.
Also, if you continue being selective while setting your sights too high, I think the chances of meeting a man who wants exactly that are extremely low.
Personally, I’m very grateful for what the club has provided me.
It seems to me that you received a fair number of offers during your first month, yet showed far too little gratitude for that.
Please forgive me for being rather harsh. m(._.)m
