I’m Joe, a columnist.
I’m writing this partly as a reminder to myself, but sharing toys is strictly off-limits. Not only is it a hygiene issue—it’s also uncool. A gentleman doesn’t share toys (according to my own research).
I’m sure some people will disagree. But it’s not just me saying this—my favorites, Princess Nana and Mai, say so too.
I currently own three toys—or three “machines,” perhaps?〔all Danish〕—and I put different-colored stickers on them so I won’t mix them up (lol). And yet, in Paris, I accidentally brought Mai’s toy with me and got scolded by Princess Nana.
By the way, I’m planning to use one in the Kyoto area next week, so I ordered a new model yesterday. Looking forward to it!
Questioner, your anger—or should I say frustration?—is completely understandable. Once again, I solemnly vow to keep each toy exclusively assigned to one person.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I think it’s fine to use the same toy with the same woman, but how would you feel about reusing a used toy when you don’t know who used it before?
Since 99% of women would dislike using a used toy, I don’t think there’s anything particularly unusual about the person asking this question. It’s simply a lack of consideration for women.
Naturally, they should use a new one.
Also, when you say using the same toy with the same woman, do you mean having it engraved or otherwise marked so it can’t be counterfeited as “exclusively for Ms. XX”?
Well, thanks to Char, a character from the anime *Gundam*, many men like the idea of something being “exclusively for XX.”
So if you ask him, “Please write ‘exclusively for XX’ on it now,” I imagine many men would be pleased…
As for what to do going forward:
If you encounter another man who does the same thing, clearly tell him, “I don’t like using something that someone else has used.”
He may simply not realize it bothers you, so he might be surprised at first. But if you tell him you dislike it, he’ll probably say something like, “I’ll buy a new one next time.”
I’m Paper Airplane, a male club member.
The fact that it was used that way from the very first meeting is definitely something to be wary of.
Even if it’s for her exclusive use, a woman would still feel uncomfortable unless it was carefully washed with soap every time. My long-term partner would get angry if I only rinsed it with water…
When it comes to toys, I think the polite thing to do is to become closer, get a membership at her favorite hotel, and—since many hotels now store guests’ belongings—buy a new one exclusively for her and have the hotel hold on to it.
Compatibility with toys varies from person to person. Many women don’t find them all that pleasurable, and with a woman you only have a club-level relationship with, it can be difficult for her to be honest about how she really feels.
So unless you use it carefully while checking in with her, she may be completely focused on pretending while enduring discomfort.
In that respect, hand massages are a safer choice, since many women respond well to them. They can also be more powerful than toys.
P.S. Mac, thank you.
A long time ago, I bought and tried the Fairy Mini Mini because I thought the stepless adjustment would be useful.
With my long-term partner, I had also tried cordless versions, the regular-sized Fairy, attaching various accessories, and so on. I assumed she found it convenient and felt the same way I did, but according to her, the vibrations were too fine and had a different quality from those of the Thrive, so we stopped using it.
We concluded that although it felt good, it was unsatisfying compared with the Thrive.
The Thrive really is an excellent product.
These days, Yamada and similar stores sell ones with a recessed section designed to fit neatly against the clitoris. When you place it in exactly the right position, it fits remarkably well and feels great.
Even women from the club respond immediately, and its effects can be surprisingly strong.
> Mac, I’d like to try the Clitoris Vibrator C-King. It looks good. So it’s also known as the squirting vibrator?
> I checked the model number of the Thrive: it’s MD-011.
> This is a truly excellent product.
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> With larger Thrive-style massagers, the trick is to apply gentle vibrations to the clitoris—just barely touching it or hovering right above it. That can be fairly difficult, but with this one, it’s comparatively easy to position correctly.
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> Even women from the club can become completely absorbed in it; some end up exhausted and unsteady afterward, so it may become an essential item.
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> I looked it up online yesterday and found that it has been discontinued, but Yamada was still selling it this year.
The following is boring and unnecessary, so there’s no need for anyone to read it. If it’s inappropriate, Maezawa, please delete it. I may delete it myself after some time has passed.
With my long-term partner, I’ve tried various toys I found online, including gentle vibrators with distinctive shapes said to have been designed by women, different styles, slim anal vibrators—which surprisingly can feel better than thicker ones—along with blindfolds, handcuffs, and so on. Some were fairly good, but in the end, the Thrive worked best for her.
The advantage of the Thrive is that you can use your fingers at the same time. I tried various techniques with one, two, or three fingers, including reaching deeper, but in her case, using just one finger worked best. She especially enjoys slowly moving it in and out while pressing it firmly against the entrance and the rougher upper wall just inside it, moving irregularly from side to side.
However, with the partner I’m most compatible with—the one who naturally experiences an adult relationship (intimate) climax—using a finger deeper inside feels incredibly good to her. The one time I tried using the Thrive, it immediately didn’t work at all. Though if you’re that compatible, there’s probably no need for it anyway.
Do women who experience an adult relationship (intimate) climax—that is, climax so strongly that the man can tell—tend to be women who enjoy deeper stimulation with a finger as well?
In my experience, women who respond more to stimulation near the entrance seem to take time to become accustomed to deeper sensations. Is it because they’re already used to climaxing easily, but not to going deep enough for an adult relationship (intimate) climax? Are they hesitant to experience that much pleasure? Don’t they know what it feels like? Are they afraid?
What accounts for the difference?
There really is no end to the variety—or to the exploration…
In the first place, very few women want to explore things to that extent. Compared with men, they probably have one-thousandth, or even one-millionth, the interest in it. So from a woman’s perspective, it’s probably completely irrelevant.
