I’m the member below who fell in love with a female staff member.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here, also weighing in. > I thought you were a little more thoughtful than this, but— I’ve never considered myself particularly thoughtful, so I feel that your current impression of me may actually be more accurate. It seems my wording was poor as well, and what I was trying to say didn’t come across clearly. What I meant was: “I think it would be better to stop contacting them while you still can, or ask to be assigned to someone else yourself.” If you did that, there’s still a chance you could look back on your time with that favorite staff member as a good memory. You may say that this contradicts my saying that you’ve fallen for the staff member, but that’s because my opinion is the same as what Paper Airplane wrote: “To be honest, if you were someone the questioner could actually date, you would already be dating. That’s just how connections work. You’ve probably already missed your chance. It’s too late now, and no matter how much you approach them, I doubt it would feel fresh or surprising to them. In your case, the only chance to catch them off guard was probably during the first or second meeting, when it was a once-in-a-lifetime kind of encounter.”

I’m Hikōki, a male club member. I understand how the questioner feels, but please also understand that, from Maezawa’s standpoint as a staff member, that was naturally the only way he could answer. If anything, I found it impressive that he addressed the issue so directly that he risked making the questioner resent him. My respect for Maezawa has only grown. An ordinary staff member probably couldn’t have written something like that. Even if it’s considered normal for idols to be prohibited from dating and to leave their agency if they do, when they end up dating, getting married, and then leaving, everyone celebrates them. That’s essentially what’s happening in the questioner’s case, so you shouldn’t get angry no matter what he writes! It’s almost prohibited, but the possibility isn’t zero. A woman so exceptional that the men around her give up thinking they have no chance is often vulnerable to a confident man. So please have the generosity to think, “Maezawa really hit the nail on the head by saying what was obvious.” P.S. Papuwa-san, You’re absolutely right. He clearly wrote that he fully understands it’s something that must never happen. P.P.S. Since the questioner can see every woman at the club, including those on the blacklist, if we assume this staff member is an exceptionally “blacklisted” woman who surpasses all of them, then she probably wouldn’t be swayed by money, status, or looks anyway. Saying, “I don’t care about my wealth or status” is too timid and will only make her run away. You need the courage to bet on that 1% possibility… Unless you have enough confidence to believe it will work out 100%, you won’t be able to make a bold approach or show generous surprises without expecting anything in return.