Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
Even if you don’t hit it off conversationally, it’s not the end of the world.
If you meet someone you’re compatible with, the conversation will naturally flow, so just relax and give it a try.
That said, it’s important to make an effort to keep the conversation going. That feeling will come across to the other person too, so you’ll be fine.
You just can’t be mentally somewhere else.
I’m Meg, a female member.
It should be fine even if you have no experience.
Rather than thinking, “What if we don’t click?”—
it’s important to have the mindset of adapting to him from your side. After all, any man you meet will undoubtedly be older and more experienced than you.
I’ll secretly teach you some handy responses:
Sa → “As expected of you!”
Shi → “I didn’t know that!”
Su → “That’s amazing!”
Se → “You’ve got great taste!”
So → “Oh, really?”
I think that was in some drama or something…
Anyway, the idea is to listen to what he has to say with genuine interest, a little more enthusiastically than usual (while smiling).
I think that alone can make a huge difference♪
I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
A first date is a great way for both women and men to make a good impression!
Especially if it’s your first time doing papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan)!
Just be upfront and say it’s your first time. If you naturally come across as a little nervous or unsure, that will make a good impression too, and I think the other person will naturally help keep things fun and lively.
Women are a hundred—or rather, more than a thousand—times better at conversation than men. If you just talk as you normally would, your inexperience will come across in a charming way, and I think the man will be more than satisfied.
I ended up answering from a man’s perspective, sorry m(._.)m
For quiet men, or if you’re worried, a safe choice would be a restaurant with a steady stream of dishes to talk about, or a renowned restaurant with special signature dishes. Just going there and enjoying the meal gives you plenty to talk about, and it’s also easy to show that you want to treat her well.
Karaoke is another good option—you don’t have to talk as much, and it’s still easy to have fun.
My number one recommendation is shopping.
If you really like her at first sight, shopping is especially good. Women can get so caught up in it that they lose track of time and have fun for hours. Even if you don’t buy much, I think she’ll be happy just choosing one thing she really likes or browsing around.
I usually ask what kind of place they’d like to go first—dinner, shopping, a drive, somewhere to have fun, and so on. So far, not a single girl has chosen dinner.
P.S. There’s one girl I met for a first date just two or three days after we both joined. We’ve met more often than anyone else, and we still see each other frequently.
When it’s both people’s first time, even the smallest things can feel special, and it seems like you naturally hit it off over everything.
