I have consistently given every woman I’ve met 50,000 yen.
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Before joining Universe, I was already a member of another dating club, and the first time, the club casually told me, “one hand.”
None of the women I’ve met has ever asked how much the allowance would be, and I’ve never brought it up myself. After dinner, I simply ask, “Are you okay with what comes next?” Afterward, I give her the allowance in a hotel envelope in the room, without sealing it.
That amount hasn’t changed in the past ten years. If we’re together until late at night or she misses the last train, I also cover the taxi fare separately, but basically, I’ve enjoyed these relationships within the “one-hand” range.
The previous question brought out various opinions, both for and against, regarding how to view 50,000 yen. Fortunately, I’ve never had a bad experience so far. I’m certainly not handsome or the type who can rely on my looks, but I do make sure to maintain a clean and well-groomed appearance.
Is a case like mine rare? I honestly have no idea.
I’m posting this because I’d appreciate hearing everyone’s opinions.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I’ve never been asked about the amount by any of the women I’ve met, and I’ve never told them either.
Please understand that women may find it difficult to ask about the amount themselves. Just because they don’t ask doesn’t mean it’s okay to leave it unmentioned.
In this situation, you need to clearly tell her the amount you’re offering and confirm whether she’s still comfortable with it.
For example, what would you do if, after the meeting, you handed her an envelope and she checked it right there and said, “I usually receive 200,000 yen. I’m still 150,000 yen short”?
Would you threaten her, saying, “It’s normally 50,000 yen, isn’t it?” Even if you threatened her, you’d only be adding to your crimes, and it wouldn’t be gentlemanly.
You may think the woman is being unreasonable, but if you proceeded without saying anything beforehand, I believe her claim would be the more valid one.
You may feel that amount is absurd, but failing to agree on the terms in advance means there’s always a possibility that something like this will happen.
From now on, please be sure to clearly communicate the allowance and obtain the other person’s agreement beforehand.
P.S. You wrote that you had already been a member of another dating club before joining Universe, so I assume the 10 years refers to your total experience with dating clubs, not just your time with Universe.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
Even if that arrangement has worked so far, there’s no guarantee it will continue to work going forward.
Some women may actually be unhappy with it but simply choose not to say anything.
When you’re willing to discuss the allowance, it reassures me that you’re not the “it’s all about me” type.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
Since I feel that a man should be willing to give whatever amount he wants—even a generous amount—if you’re offering a ¥50,000 allowance, I think that’s perfectly fine.
As long as she’s clean and has a normal appearance, I don’t see any problem with proceeding that way.
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