I wore skinny jeans to dinner with a papa I’ve met several times, and he told me I was “shattering m...

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I wore skinny jeans to dinner with a papa I’ve met several times, and he told me I was “shattering men’s dreams.” He says I have to wear a mini skirt that shows my legs every time. My legs are my best feature, and since I used to work in apparel, I enjoy wearing all kinds of outfits. When we meet, I try not to repeat outfits, so I’ll wear a mini skirt one time, a dress another, and so on. I styled the skinny jeans to make my legs look longer, but he got angry. If that was a problem, he should have told me from the start. He even says I should wear a mini skirt when it’s cold and “put fashion before comfort.” Meanwhile, he always dresses so casually.

斉藤さんだぞ♪ · Answer

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪

I can’t really answer without knowing the context or the time, place, and occasion.

In my case, I rarely take them anywhere that would be appropriate for skinny jeans, so I don’t think anyone has ever shown up wearing them.

前澤 · Answer

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.

Almost all women pay attention to fashion. Among men, only some—perhaps the more stylish ones—care about fashion, while most prefer comfortable clothes.

Some of those men don’t pay much attention to women’s fashion either.

So even if a woman makes an effort to dress beautifully, a man may not notice.

What they do notice is:

- a woman with beautiful legs: her legs
- a woman with a beautiful bust: her bust
- a woman with a beautiful back: her back
- a woman with an attractively slim waist: her waist

That’s why they’re pleased when you wear clothes that highlight those features.

In your case, since you have beautiful legs, I think that’s what he’s been looking at.

In other words, from the man’s perspective, if you cover up your beautiful legs, he may be thinking, “Why hide the most beautiful part of her?”

How you put an outfit together is important, but in this case, I think you shouldn’t hide your legs.

> If he didn’t like it, he should have told me from the start.

He may have been thinking that he should tell you, but kept putting it off until he finally brought it up this time. Or perhaps you used to wear clothes that showed your legs.

Now that you know his preferences, maybe it’s best to think of men as being children at heart no matter how old they are, and indulge him a little.

> Even though that papa wears very comfortable clothes himself.

That’s just how it is.

I think you’re also starting to understand how to interact with this papa. Once you understand him, you can adjust how you respond.

I think the two of you can enjoy some wonderful time together.

BB7 · Answer

I’m BB7, a male member.

I’m also into feet and bare legs, but even if she’s wearing skinny jeans, I don’t mind—it just gives me something to look forward to seeing later.

Anyway, putting that aside, please tell that older guy this:

“A man who nitpicks a woman’s fashion will never be popular with women. At worst, he’ll get dumped.”

伊達◎ゆめ · Answer

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.

Ahahaha!  
Just say, “Sorry, I didn’t notice!” and you’ll be fine.

He probably just wants to keep looking at those gorgeous legs of yours.  
I can understand how he feels.

Try to be understanding—once you become an older guy, you start noticing different things.  
Mac-san is truly something else in that regard! (笑)

Wait! Is Mac-san an older guy?  
I thought he looked more like Masaharu Fukuyama!

フラグメーカー · Answer

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.

There’s nothing wrong with skinny jeans, right? ^^;

When a long-haired girl ties her hair back because she’s really going to eat, I find it just as appealing as when she dresses up and curls her hair for a restaurant.

As long as the outfit suits the place and atmosphere, I think it’s fine. On the other hand, there are probably places where wearing a miniskirt would feel embarrassing.

That said, it’s true that feminine, date-like outfits are generally preferred, I suppose…

シアトル · Answer

I’m Seattle, a male member.

I’m sure it’s those beautiful legs of yours that he finds so attractive. It’s probably all in how he phrased it.

If he was rude, point it out so he’ll know better in the future.

西中 恵 · Answer

I’m Meg, a female member.

Wow, you’re really furious, huh?  
I get it, I really do.

You want to say, “How can you say that when you’re ignoring your own faults?”

That man wants to show off his “I’m the man” image to everyone on the street by walking around with a girl with beautiful legs.

He hasn’t noticed your feelings or your efforts—not even a little.

Will you put up with it and think of it as allowance for your valuable legs?

Ask yourself honestly.

紙ひこうき · Answer

I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.

Maybe he wants her to come every time wearing an outfit she likes with a miniskirt.

Especially if her legs are her best feature.

He probably has about one-hundredth—or even one-thousandth—the interest in fashion that women like me do. He may be similar.

I don’t even remember what either of us wore on our last date.

So I guess that’s why he couldn’t say anything about her outfit in advance.

Basically, he doesn’t care what she wears—he just wants to be captivated by those beautiful legs.

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