Maezawa from the Planning and Strategy Department will answer this as well.
> I’ve seen comments on the site and in reviews saying that dates sometimes fall through if you change your profile after receiving an offer…
Changing your relationship type can sometimes cause the date to fall through.
If a woman changes her relationship type after receiving an offer but before the date, a staff member will ask her why.
We then ask the man whether he would like to cancel now that the terms have changed.
For example, if her relationship type changes from C to B, the man may have been expecting to enjoy an adult relationship (intimate) after dinner on the first date. But with type B, the first date would be dinner only (no intimacy). In that case, he may decide to look for someone else, and the date falls through.
Conversely, when the type changes from B to C, women often think the man will be pleased. However, some men may have made the offer specifically because she was type B. If she changes to C, he may feel that she is no longer the kind of partner he was looking for and decide to look for someone else. The date can then fall through as well.
For this reason, once you’ve received an offer, it’s best not to change anything until the date takes place.
You can upload selfie photos yourself, but this can also be risky when you already have an offer. The man may be disappointed after seeing the photo.
We recommend changing your profile when you don’t have a date confirmed through Universe.
I’m Hikōki, a male member.
Congratulations on getting an offer!
People in Type C or Type D generally don’t look at your profile after a date, so I don’t think it matters at all whether you update it after receiving an offer or after the date.
The following applies to Type A and Type B members.
For the first two or three weeks after joining, they probably won’t pay much attention to your comments, photos, or calendar updates.
I don’t think updates will affect offers. Even if something has changed, if it’s only been a few days to a week, they probably won’t even notice what changed—or that anything changed at all.
If you liked the person you went on the date with, I think it’s better to avoid updating your comments or calendar after the date.
Adding photos is probably fine for the first month or two after joining.
However, adding photos also makes you appear in the featured section, so once you’ve started seeing someone you really like, it’s better to hold off.
The other person may think, “Maybe they’re not that interested in me,” or, “They must still be looking for someone better.”
You should be prepared for things not to progress as smoothly. Even if they don’t ask you directly, they may lose interest or become more guarded.
If you keep updating your profile but then tell them in person that you haven’t looked at it or logged in at all, you’ll only be digging yourself into a hole.
For Types A, B, and C, the most effective thing is still to tell the other person and actually deactivate or take a break from your account.
P.S. The fact that you received an offer so quickly means your fresh, new-member appeal is coming through, and your current profile seems perfectly fine. If anything, I think it makes a better impression to leave your profile completely untouched for now.
P.P.S. Unless you’re seeing someone every week, updating your profile won’t have any real impact. If you only meet once or twice a month, as Mac said, they basically won’t look at your profile after the first date. At most, they might check your name. That’s what “after receiving an offer” means!
P.P.P.S. In my case, I have plenty of free time, so I divide the people I see once or twice a month into “occasional dates,” and those I see frequently every week into “currently dating.”
For occasional dates, I give them an allowance each time we meet. For the people I’m currently dating, even the Type C ones say they don’t need an allowance, so I give them money whenever there’s an opportunity—more like something you’d give to a girlfriend, a junior colleague, or a younger relative, at a time when they’ll be happy to receive it.
