I’m a male member.

I’m Flagmaker, a column writer. The wording, “It’s rude to women who expect an allowance even for the slightest opportunity,” feels a little rude to me, but I don’t think the act itself is disrespectful toward the woman at all. Wording can be tricky, huh? ^^

I’m a lost man in my 60s. I was the one who posted this question. I thought I’d just remain anonymous after reading Meg’s answer, but Mac really gave me a talking-to… lol… so I decided to come forward and confess…(^^ゞ I vaguely remember having received a few offers from Type C women in the past, but most have been Type B, and lately I’ve been focusing especially on offers to Type A women. What prompted my question was realizing how ridiculous it is that I dutifully check “Let’s start with dinner” even when making an offer to a Type A woman（笑） Of course, there’s no “disdain” involved, and I’m actually glad Mac pointed that out in his editing. As expected of Mac… The Type A woman I met the other day was the kind of person who made me think, “If she’s willing to open up that much on the very first date… I might just go for it.” I realize it would be disrespectful to talk about my “batting average” with Type A women, but I’d love to have Mac say, “That’s just like you”… Ah, if only I had stamina like Mac’s, I’d be perfect… lol

I’m Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office, and I’ll answer as well. I don’t think it’s rude at all. If someone does consider it rude, they probably weren’t paying close attention to the club’s explanation. At dating clubs, we explain that dates arranged by the club should start with a meal. Going straight to a hotel after meeting—or taking someone directly to your own place—is against the rules. So, for example, even if a woman thinks it would be better to go straight to a hotel because it would save time, that would still violate the rules. In that case, we would have to tell her to meet people elsewhere. (The same applies to men.) Also, even with Dating Type C, the chances of becoming involved in an adult relationship (intimate) from the very first day are only around 50%. Showing the consideration to say, “Dinner only (no intimacy) is fine for the first time,” is part of being a gentleman. Of course, I understand that men choose Type C or D women because they hope to begin an adult relationship (intimate) from the first day. But it takes mutual consent, so showing some composure and giving her that option is perfectly reasonable. What about Dating Type D? Even in that case, having dinner first is still the rule, and women have the right to decline, even if they’re Type D. Since this is a matter of free choice, someone may arrive intending to proceed but then decide that a particular man isn’t for her. So I don’t think it’s rude to choose dinner first in that situation. That said, it seems that few people select this option when it comes to Type D women.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. That may be one way of looking at it. Even when I was a C-type, I always selected “start with dinner.” I thought it would make the other person feel safe, knowing I was a gentleman. Since things would always naturally lead to going to a hotel, I assumed most men would go anyway, so either option might be fine. I thought choosing “start with dinner” was simply the polite thing to do and would come across as less disrespectful, but I suppose it can be interpreted either way. P.S. Questioner, did you think that because sometimes you might just have dinner without going to a hotel? As someone who assumes that a C-type encounter will lead to going to a hotel 100% of the time, that possibility never even occurred to me. P.P.S. Mac, with a C-type, unless something exceptional happens, the assumption is that both people want to go to a hotel that day. So I chose “start with dinner” to soften the impression of being too eager and avoid seeming rude… After that, taking a cue from you, Mac, I started choosing “no dinner,” and that turned out to be the most efficient option for both sides, without wasting anyone’s time. P.P.P.S. To “Sixties and Still Searching”: On the first day with an A-type… that’s amazing… I’m about to fall head over heels for an A-type girl. I mean, really… Even something as simple as a kiss, or just touching her… Every little thing is incredible. The excitement and thrill just keep going—it’s amazing. I never imagined I could experience something this moving at my age… If things go well, maybe I’ll even get to eat her home cooking every day… Huh? Am I starting to understand how Cha Katō felt?

I'm Meg, one of the female members. I don't think it's rude at all. If anything, it's wonderful that you're being so considerate♪ Women who receive an offer from someone like you must be lucky (*^^*) P.S. As always, Mac's ideas surprise me and make me laugh! That gentlemanly way of thinking is so like you, Kamihikōki (*^^*)