What’s with men who offer to meet women registered far away, then say things like, “It’s a waste of money and time for me to come to Tokyo,” “It’s hard to make time because I have a job that pays over ¥10,000 an hour,” and “I’m coming to Tokyo even though I’m busy” every time you meet?

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. Relationships between men and women can be pretty complicated. Maezawa’s answer is a good one. That said, talking with him might get a little tiring... (lol) I’m in the same boat—poor and constantly busy.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. Somehow, the fact that you can understand how this man feels makes me wonder whether he might not actually be wealthy. But setting that aside— I think there’s no doubt that he really wants to see you. He probably wishes he could see you more often than he does now. However, he’s busy and can’t come to see you, which leaves him feeling frustrated. You know what they say: “No money and no time.” So he probably wishes you would come to see him, even if he has to pay—but since you made that clear from the beginning, that isn’t an option either. “Isn’t there any way we could see each other more often?” I think he’s always thinking about it, but can’t find a solution. That feeling is probably coming out in the form of those awkward comments. He doesn’t realize that what he’s saying is having a negative effect. He probably thinks he’s conveying how badly he wants to see you, but it isn’t getting across that way. As for what you should say when he brings it up: “I’d like to see you more often too.” I think that alone is enough. Really. Maybe I’m interpreting it a little too generously—it’s possible he simply feels that the money is being wasted—but I think it’s better to take the more positive interpretation. The conversation might go something like this: Man: “It’s a waste of money and time for you to come to Tokyo.” Woman: “I’d like to see you more often too.” Man: “It’s difficult to make time because I have a job that pays over 10,000 yen an hour.” Woman: “I’m happy that you make time for me despite being so busy. I’d like to see you more often too.” Man: “I’m coming to Tokyo even though I’m busy.” Woman: “I’m happy that you make time for me despite being so busy. I’d like to see you more often too.” Man: “That’s true. Couldn’t you come see me next time?” Woman: “I can’t stay overnight, so we can’t go on dates outside the Kanto area. I’d like to see you more often too, though.” It’s not exactly much of a conversation, but between a man and a woman, I think even this kind of exchange is fine. Good luck.

I’m Meg, one of the female members. Seriously, what’s with that attitude?! Even I, patient as I am, would eventually snap. At that point, I’d be thinking, “Then don’t bother coming to see me anymore.” Besides, I wouldn’t be feeling it. P.S. Seattle-san, Are you talking about that person who flew to Sapporo when their partner came down with a fever? I remember thinking how heartwarming it was that there are people willing to go that far for someone. (*^^*) Legoland sounds great—how lovely♪ P.P.S. Paper Airplane-san, So that’s how you really feel! I hadn’t realized it. Men’s feelings are complicated too...

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. Honestly, I think he’s trying to tell you that you’re worth that much to him. He’s happy and feels lucky to have met you, but he’s not very good with words. If a man is willing to travel a long way just for that, he must really like you. You might even enjoy teasing him a little to draw out his true feelings: “What does that mean?” “What are you trying to say?” “So, do you not want to see me anymore?” and so on.

I’m Seattle, a male member. A few years ago, I used to travel to Sapporo every month. I understand wanting to see her. (That’s right—I rushed all the way to Sapporo to visit her in the hospital. The day after tomorrow, we’re going to Legoland together.) Still, what an arrogant man. You might as well treat him as an ATM and meet him.