I’m a female member.

I’m BB7, a male member. I think the man’s technique does play a role, but it’s probably influenced more by the woman’s experience, physiology, sensitivity, and physical condition. The man she’s with may want to bask in the sense of accomplishment and self-satisfaction of thinking, “I made her climax!” But unless that’s what the woman wants, I don’t think there’s any need to be so hung up on it.

I’m Meg, a female member. So it really is difficult for women to climax during sex, huh? Reading everyone’s answers has made me feel relieved. Actually, I haven’t been able to climax with my current male supporter either (^_^;) It feels like I’m staying in an incredibly pleasurable state, but I guess I still have a ways to go. More than that, I’m concerned that he hasn’t climaxed either. He says, “At my age, it’s hard to finish, you know. Don’t worry about me. I enjoy watching you feel so good.” Even so, I can’t help comparing him to Mack. (Wait, aren’t they around the same age? lol)

I’m Seattle, a male member. It’s difficult for women to orgasm from penetration alone. I think it’s best to answer honestly. As for me, I’ve given up on trying to make that happen. It’s not something you can force, and I imagine a woman’s emotions play a big role. About 70% of women can climax from clitoral stimulation, so if that works, I’m satisfied too. If she can’t orgasm even that way, it’s not much fun for me, even if we continue for a while.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > They often ask me during or after intimacy, How gauche. There’s not much you can do if they ask during intimacy, but afterward, it might help to say, “I came,” before they ask. (Men who ask usually do so because they can’t tell, so they probably don’t actually know whether you did or not.) From the man’s perspective, he might think, “Huh? When did that happen?” But once you’ve told him first, I don’t think most men would then ask about it. That said, the conversation might still turn in that direction, so I’m sorry if that would be more trouble for you. > Things are fine for now, but I’m worried this might become the reason the relationship ends. I don’t think you need to worry about that. What matters more than whether you came is whether you show a reaction. If you’re completely unresponsive and simply lie there, I can imagine that sometimes being the reason things end. Since you say everything is fine so far, that doesn’t seem to be the case. I think you can relax.

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. A lot of men seem to believe that making a woman climax is the ultimate goal, and that they have to make it happen. I think that’s why so many men are bad at sex, and why women end up feeling pressured to fake it. It’s a strange trend driven by the way sex is portrayed in porn. Sex can still feel good and satisfying even without climax, so I don’t make it my goal to bring someone there. If she seems like she wants to, I’ll simply help her along—that’s about it. Besides, when you focus too much on making her climax, you become so wrapped up in your own movements that you stop noticing her reactions. Some women climax easily, while others have a harder time. That’s all it is, and there’s nothing wrong with either. I’ll casually ask during intimacy whether she tends to climax easily or has any particular sensitive spots. If she’s the type who can climax easily, I’ll help her get there; if not, I don’t force it. Making her climax doesn’t equal a perfect score—it isn’t everything. ^^; Rather than serving one big main course, you can also aim for overall satisfaction, from the appetizers through dessert and coffee. Also, if you ask, “Did you climax?” or “How was it?” you’ll never know the truth. You’ll just get an answer meant to make you feel better. If you really want to know, wait for her to bring it up herself.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. You really don’t need to worry about it at all! Some women still can’t climax from penetration even into their 40s, and some never do. One of my long-term girlfriends took over ten years before she was finally able to climax that way. After that, she started saying, “We’re so compatible!” But there’s no way I could tell her, “Not really—we’re not compatible at all. That’s why it took so many years.” Still, I do feel a sense of satisfaction from having helped her explore that far, so I think we’ll continue seeing each other for a long time. Unlike men, it’s quite difficult for women to climax from penetration. Even between lovers, it can take years before a woman is able to do so. And if she doesn’t feel the need to, there’s no reason she has to experience it that way at all. Another factor is that there aren’t many men who are that curious and willing to explore when it comes to sex. If it’s difficult even with loving sex between romantic partners, then achieving it in a relationship that began through a club is nothing short of a miracle. So you don’t need to worry about compatibility, either! Have you ever met a partner who helped you climax that way? It’s like saying that if you have two best friends, they aren’t both really your “best friend”—you have one best friend, and the other is simply a close friend. Finding someone with whom you have perfect chemistry from the moment you meet is a rare blessing in life. I’m sure you’d never let that person go. Since this is a club arrangement, I think you’re already having a good time if you can connect with each other as well as close friends do. That said, because it is a club, one advantage is that you can be proactive about trying different things. You may even find that you have more possibilities here. Try exploring various options and see how far you can go before penetration, using toys or fingers, for example. P.S. As Mac mentioned, when a man asks about it, that’s what he’s getting at. He probably can’t tell whether you actually climaxed from penetration. Just like the man Mac described confronting, only the woman herself truly knows whether she climaxed or not. Even when a woman can’t climax from penetration, being able to climax repeatedly beforehand and enjoy those sensations for a long time can feel far more pleasurable than a man’s brief moment of release. I sometimes find myself envious of the lingering afterglow.