I was recently invited to my first group date. It was a 4-on-4 date; all the men knew each other, while the women were meeting for the first time. One of the women was aggressive toward me, and it really hurt.

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ As Mac says, it’s the organizer’s inexperience. Hosting a meal with several people takes a lot of stamina. If you can’t handle it, you’re better off not doing it. I feel sorry for the women.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > Is it possible that I’ll stop receiving offers because a woman or man shared a negative evaluation of me? Was the 4-on-4 gathering a date arranged by Universe? I’m not quite sure what you mean by knowing all four men. Assuming it was arranged by Universe: Basically, men evaluate women, and women evaluate men, so women generally don’t evaluate other women. However, since you left after the first dinner, it’s possible that one of the men gave you a negative evaluation. If that evaluation was added to your profile, it could potentially result in you no longer receiving offers. That said, we would normally check with the woman to confirm whether the evaluation was accurate. So if no one contacted you to confirm, it seems unlikely that the negative evaluation was added to your profile, meaning it probably wouldn’t affect you beyond the man who made the inquiry. If you’re concerned, please contact Maezawa using the form below, and we’ll look into it. https://universe-club.jp/help/contact/

I’m Meg, a female member. That must have been really difficult for you. In the Q&A posted on January 22, 2020, at 8:21, someone described being invited on a group date and finding themselves in a similar situation. It seems that person was also disliked by one of the women and ended up feeling really deflated. I honestly can’t understand how people can behave that way toward women they’re meeting for the first time. And I also question the men for not noticing that someone was feeling hurt. Would you like to be invited on another group date? If this experience has made you realize that one-on-one arrangements might suit you better, you don’t have to force yourself. P.S. Mac, that thoughtfulness of yours is wonderful. Papua, you’re such a sweetheart!

I’m Flag Maker, a columnist. That woman sounds awful, but the men are just as bad… I’m terrible with large drinking parties myself, and I’ve sometimes ended up being the person everyone mocks and teases, so I understand how upsetting it can feel… You really don’t need to worry about how someone like that treats you(^^) Besides, I don’t think group-date offers are all that common to begin with, so there’s no need to dwell on that either. I’m sure there are good people who will recognize your strengths. Just focus on those people and you’ll be fine(^^)