I dated a college student who had no prior experience with men and had joined as a Type B member to find her first partner. We saw each other about once a month for roughly six months.
I enjoyed meeting and talking with her so much that I never managed to create the right atmosphere, and before I knew it, time had passed and she had gotten a boyfriend. She told me that she could no longer continue the kind of relationship I was probably looking for, and that she was also leaving the club, so we parted ways.
It’s been almost six months since we broke things off. The other day, I received a LINE message from her for the first time in a while. She had become a hostess at a cabaret club and messaged me asking if I would be her conversation partner again.
So, what should I do?
For context, I’ve never been to a cabaret club, so I don’t really have a clear image of what her work involves.
I’m a lost 60-something.
I’m the one who asked this question.
Thank you all for your replies.
She messaged me on LINE around New Year’s, and I replied, thinking, “Oh, I guess we’re not completely out of touch after all.” That’s when I found out what had actually happened.
In the photo she was using as her LINE wallpaper—or whatever it’s called—she looked so different that I found myself thinking, “Wait… who is that?” She’s still supposed to be a university student, though…
It’s been about a month since then, but I haven’t received a single promotional message or even a regular LINE message. Does she really want me to be someone she can talk to again? Or, hold on—is getting me interested like this actually part of the sales strategy?
I’ve never been to a hostess club and really don’t know much about how they work, so I wanted to ask what everyone thinks.
For now, I’ve decided to wait a little longer and then contact her—but absolutely not to get sucked into the “hostess club rabbit hole”…
I’d love to have dinner with you, Mr. Saito, but if you treated me, I feel like I’d end up having to repay you in some outrageous way, so I’ll just accept the thought behind your offer… haha.
Thank you.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
After going to hostess clubs about eight times in total, I came to one conclusion: they’re not worth what you pay.
I’m also sensitive to cigarette smoke, so that was another downside for me.
If you’re going to spend money at a hostess club, you’ll have several times more fun putting it toward dating club activities instead.
Since hostess clubs are basically about getting customers’ LINE contacts and constantly messaging them, it’s pretty much sales work.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I think it might be a good idea to go on dates like you used to, without going to that place.
If she keeps talking about going there, unfortunately, that’s sales, so even if you go along with it, I don’t think you’ll enjoy it very much.
If you can meet for a meal and go on dates like before instead of going there, you might find a different kind of enjoyment in seeing each other and spending time together.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
You can’t really hide the business angle, but isn’t this still a good opportunity...? Maybe you should meet somewhere other than the cabaret club. She may be open to an adult relationship by now... But be careful about illnesses.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
What do I think? If I imagine being in the questioner’s situation, I’d probably meet her at least once if she seemed like a nice girl I clicked with.
If you want to meet her, I think it’s perfectly fine to go ahead and see her.
You don’t necessarily need to understand her job at a hostess club—there’s nothing wrong with simply hearing her out.
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I’m Hikoki, a male member.
It sounds like she’s inviting you with something along the lines of, “I’d be happy if you bought me a bottle of champagne,” so it’s probably best to keep things at the LINE-only stage and avoid meeting too often, using being busy as an excuse…
But even when men know exactly what’s going on, they still end up meeting her anyway.
So, while you’re weighing your options, either choice is understandable.
Getting swept up in it can be surprisingly fun, too.
Since you don’t normally go to hostess clubs, whatever you do, don’t go to the club itself…
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