Do any men invite Type A women (no adult relationship; looking for dinner dates) to have an adult relationship? If you have experience with this, what are your intentions when you invite them?

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. Apparently, some people invite women with Dating Type A from the very first meeting. That’s completely out of the question (please, absolutely do not invite them on the first day. It will almost certainly lead to a complaint. If it happens repeatedly, you may even be forced to leave the service). Other than the fact that money is involved, I believe a relationship with someone who’s Dating Type A is very close to a romantic relationship. You’re two people meeting and going on dates each time, so it’s possible for feelings to develop into love. While valuing that human connection, I think the appeal of being involved with someone who’s Dating Type A lies in enjoying the process of waiting to see when she’ll decide, “Maybe I’d be comfortable with this man.” Conversely, it’s perfectly fine if a woman is mainly interested in meals or simply going on dates. But if money is her only motivation, I think the man will pull away as soon as he realizes that. It may seem contradictory, but that’s just how it works. Unless you become the kind of pair where she can appreciate something about him beyond the money—such as enjoying his company or admiring how knowledgeable he is—I think a long-term relationship will be difficult. And that’s precisely why men also want to see women like that again. As in this question, three meetings is far too soon, but I think it’s best to understand that it’s perfectly normal for a man to want the relationship to become more like that of a romantic couple.

I’m Adventurer Merchant, a columnist. Of course, since these are introductions through Universe Club, it goes without saying that both men and women are expected to understand each other’s dating types. That said, even if someone is Type D, it doesn’t mean she is absolutely required to accept a relationship after dinner simply because she’s Type D, right? If a Type D woman feels, “I don’t think I can do this with him,” she should be free to turn him down. In that sense, for the man who was turned down, her dating type is effectively “A.” Conversely, even if a woman is Type A, she may come to feel attracted to a man as they continue seeing each other and want to take the relationship further. In that case, even if she was originally Type A, she would be Type C or D with regard to that particular man she has grown attracted to. Dating types are simply a guideline. So while it is not gentlemanly—and should be avoided—to forcefully pressure Type A or B women into a relationship after dinner from the very first meeting, isn’t it natural for a relationship between the two people to develop as they continue seeing each other, regardless of their initial type? It may give you more peace of mind to think of dating types as nothing more than the type someone has【at the time of the first meeting】—and even then, only as a reference. This is part of what makes dating clubs enjoyable. If you dislike that aspect, then perhaps a dating club simply isn’t the right place for you.

I’m Paper Airplane, a male member. I don’t like meeting someone with an adult relationship expected from the start, so I’ve gradually moved from Type B women toward Type A women. Men who seek out Type A women may be more interested in enjoying a genuine connection—and the process of building it—within the boundaries of the club, so an adult relationship itself may not be their main priority. That said, it doesn’t mean they’ve ruled out the possibility of an adult relationship. I do want to become intimate with a Type A woman. That’s the honest truth. Depending on the woman, there may be absolutely no chance of anything beyond dinner, even with someone she likes. Still, the world is an enjoyable place precisely because you never know how things will turn out. P.S. To answer the question a little more directly: I do think that moving to a third date without having grown closer or built trust is too soon. However, what the man said may not necessarily have been a lie. There would be nothing enjoyable about deceiving her and going all the way without her consent. As you said, if that’s what he wanted, he could simply seek out a Type B woman. Because you don’t know whether things might progress or not—just like you don’t know whether you’ll win or lose at rock-paper-scissors—the uncertainty is what makes your heart flutter. With a Type A woman, you can take things one step at a time and enjoy watching the relationship gradually develop. I think being able to enjoy that kind of mutually caring, pseudo-romantic relationship is something unique to Type A arrangements—especially since doing the same outside a club could become quite problematic. Unless you clearly tell him on the first or second date that there is absolutely no possibility of anything more, there’s a good chance he won’t understand. Men can be rather foolish that way.

I’m a lost and confused man in my 60s. I would never make that kind of proposition to a Type A woman. Unfortunately, there do seem to be some male members who impose their own interpretations and can’t respect a woman’s wishes. I’m going to take more time, work on becoming someone they want to approach, and if I do get invited, I won’t turn them down... lol For now, though, my efforts are starting to pay off a little. “Wait until the cuckoo sings.”