I’ve been looking through the anonymous questions, and while I find them really interesting, I also feel a bit out of place, so I wanted to ask something.
I had always understood a mistress to be a woman kept by a married man in addition to his wife—someone in a continuing relationship, close to marriage, accompanied by a reasonable degree of financial support.
However, judging from the proportion of respondents, are most of the male members unmarried (including divorced men)?
Is it normal here to have multiple relationships—and even to openly brag, rather tastelessly, about how many people they’ve slept with or what kinds of things they’ve done?
Is it considered strange, uncommon, or even creepy to prefer being involved with just one person, if possible?
I’m BB7, a male member.
I took another look at the data on male members, and it was 65% single and 35% married.
I have to admit, I’m a little surprised that there are more single men. I’m married myself, but I feel that single and married men may approach things somewhat differently.
Whether someone sees multiple women or sticks with one doesn’t seem to have anything to do with whether they’re single or married. And just because someone is in the minority doesn’t make them creepy. Everyone is free to approach these relationships according to their own values.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> Is it strange—or even creepy—to prefer being involved with just one woman, even if that makes me a minority?
I feel that, right after joining, more men tend to think that way.
However, sometimes a relationship with a woman suddenly comes to an end. There are also cases where a man pours too much affection into one woman, causing her to pull away.
After going through experiences like these, some men come to feel that dating multiple women helps them avoid becoming too emotionally invested in one person and makes them appear more sophisticated from the other person’s perspective.
For various reasons like these, some men decide that it’s better to date multiple women.
Of course, there are also men who have wanted to date various women from the very beginning.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
In my case, one partner has always been enough for me from the time I joined, so I’ve always pursued one-on-one relationships.
I don’t have much financial means, I’m not exactly young, and my looks are what they are. So my approach is to consider the relationship decided as soon as a woman says, “I’d be willing to date you,” when we first meet.
The club has also told me not to try to monopolize my partner—for example, by pressuring or urging her to leave the club—so I’ve never done that. Even if a woman isn’t especially attractive, if she understands my circumstances and the way I approach relationships and agrees to date me, she can have exclusive access to my financial support.
I don’t know whether that’s good or bad, but perhaps people naturally fall into the majority or minority depending on their financial means and how they approach these relationships.
From the women’s perspective, I think their position is determined by factors such as the amount of financial support they receive, the time they have available, whether they see other men, and the number of offers they get—and that’s what separates them into the majority and minority.
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I’m Saito, a column writer♪
Like you, I’m also a “black member.” I’m married as well, and I share your view of what being a mistress should be.
That said, I do have a bit of ambition, so I can’t help meeting new women from time to time.
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I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I think your perspective is perfectly reasonable, too(^^)
At the same time, there are also people who want to meet a lot of different partners—that’s why dating clubs can operate in the first place.
Of course, I understand that Black members pay high membership fees. However, if everyone only wanted to see one person, the current system might not generate enough revenue, and Universe Club might not be able to continue operating.
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I’m Hikoukai, a male member.
I think there are many people who feel the same way as you do.
Since it’s a dating club, it’s easy to find:
- someone like a mistress for married men
- someone like a girlfriend for single men
and enjoy the relationship.
Some people want to date lots of different partners, while many men and women prefer to focus on just one person.
Among women who choose Type A or B, some ideally want to leave the club after meeting a man they like on their first date and continue seeing only him. There are also quite a few men who want the same thing.
For people on both sides who want an exclusive relationship, that desire is fulfilled.
I think the appeal of a club is that you can find someone who matches your preferred approach without having to go through much trouble.
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