I came across the term “mistress matching service” and visited the website for the first time.
It seems to be very well-known, with a huge number of users, but the thought that my husband might use a service like this is horrifying.
I imagine many wives must feel uncomfortable seeing services like this become so widespread.
Is Japan really becoming a society where services like this will be further normalized?
I’m BB7, a male member.
What’s considered common sense or unconventional can easily be turned upside down.
Not so long ago, it was common in rural areas for people to make nighttime visits, and communities would raise children without knowing who their fathers were. Those in power openly kept mistresses.
Please continue living peacefully within the boundaries of your own common sense.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
As a married woman in the exact opposite position from your wife, your words really hit home. If I were one of your wife’s mom friends…well, that wouldn’t be pleasant, would it?
Until last year, I had nothing to do with papa-katsu (compensated dating in Japan). I never imagined I’d end up stepping into this world myself.
Still, whether it’s justified or not, we can’t freely control people’s hearts.
What may be horrifying to your wife is something that fulfills me emotionally and physically.
Well, as long as your wife continues to welcome you warmly, with hugs, kisses, and intimacy, I don’t think you need to worry too much.
I intend to take what I do here with me to the grave.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> I shudder at the thought that my husband might use a service like this.
You’re absolutely right to feel that way.
But don’t worry—your husband won’t use this site.
He wouldn’t do something his wife dislikes.
If you’re a loving couple, there’s no room for someone else to come between you.
He may be creating a virtual mistress, but that’s all it is—a virtual world.
There’s no need to worry.
> Is Japan going to become a society where services like this are even more normalized?
They’re already normalized and acknowledged as existing, given that they’re even addressed in local ordinances.
Besides, these services simply create opportunities for people to meet.
What they do after meeting is up to them.
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Column writer Saito here ♪
Nice to meet you.
You say, “In Japan, wives...” but when it comes to sex, the barriers are much lower overseas.
This kind of thing exists because regulations are so strict.
Of course, it depends on the country...
When a famous foreign guest once visited a Japanese hostess club, he caused a fuss, saying, “Why can’t I take these women back to my hotel? Japan is weird.”
From then on, whenever he came to Japan, they would arrange a sex worker specifically for him that day. But since he kept trying to take home women who weren’t sex workers, I couldn’t help laughing and thinking, “They’re both as bad as each other...”
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
I believe what you’re saying is exactly right.
That said, anything that exists is sustained by users who need it.
You simply need to create a situation at home with your husband where it isn’t necessary.
Please build an environment in which you have no need to use it.
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I’m Paper Airplane, a male member.
I can certainly understand where you’re coming from.
To be honest, it gives me chills to imagine what would happen if women—or my wife—could use a similar service.
That said, men are foolish creatures with minds that are almost 100% occupied by sex?? Women, on the other hand, are creatures whose minds are almost 100% occupied by things other than sex.
So please accept this as a system that works because of that difference.
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