I’m hoping to join.
However,
I have a lot of concerns, so I decided to ask here.
I’m a married woman in my late 30s with children.
I of course need to be home at night, so I would only be able to participate during the daytime on weekdays.
I also need to get home fairly early in the afternoon to pick up my children.
On top of that, I live in a rural area...
I’m in such a remote place that it takes more than two hours to get to any of the branches.
Would there really be very little demand for someone like me outside the cities?
Is it possible that I could be introduced to supporters who are willing to travel out this way?
As for my appearance...
I’m often complimented wherever I go.
I’m around the age people call “late 30s,”
but I’m sometimes told I look like I’m in my 20s.
That said,
I obviously can’t compete with the youthful freshness of women actually in their 20s or college students...!
I’ve often been treated as a beautiful woman,
but at this point,
I’m no longer young...
and my terms aren’t exactly ideal...
Would that make it rare for me to be chosen?
Even if I went to an interview and took my chances,
it would cost me both time and money.
So I’m hoping someone here will encourage me,
but at the same time, I also want to know the reality of the situation.
I have mixed feelings about it...
I’ve tried to imagine what actually participating would be like,
and since I’m cheerful and enjoy being around people,
I feel I could have a good time meeting new people.
It may sound strange to say this about myself,
but I think I have a fairly charming personality.
(Sorry for the self-promotion.)
If I could make it as far as a first meeting,
I feel I might be able to build a good relationship with someone.
However,
I’d like to know whether my circumstances would make things difficult for me.
Is there a possibility that I could receive an offer?
Maezawa from the Business Planning Office here as well.
> My activities (if that’s what you’d call them) would only be during the daytime on weekdays.
There are women with children registered too, and dating during the daytime on weekdays is generally not a problem.
The issue is whether the children are very young. If they are, the child might suddenly develop a fever on the day, forcing the date to be canceled.
If that happens on the first date, however, the woman is automatically banned from the service, so this can be a major disadvantage.
> I live in a rural area, more than two hours from any branch.
I think it depends on whether you mean two hours by bullet train or two hours by local train. If it’s two hours by local train, it would probably take about an hour by bullet train, so using the bullet train would eliminate that disadvantage.
(When the circumstances are known, women may write something like, “For the first dinner only, I would appreciate reimbursement of ¥XX for the round-trip bullet train fare.” However, if meeting someone is the priority, they may deliberately leave that out. If the relationship continues long-term, the man will usually be considerate, so some women prioritize meeting him even if they lose money on the first date.)
If there’s no bullet train, or it still takes two hours even by bullet train, it would certainly be difficult. But if you can set aside eight hours in total—two hours there, two hours for the date, and two hours back, plus some extra time—it seems like dating would still be possible.
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I’m a male member, だて◎ゆめ.
There’s no point in overthinking it. As the saying goes, “Idle minds are like resting fools.”
I think you should first consult the staff at the branch about what kind of activities would be possible and let them make the decision.
If they say it’s okay, why not register and see how it goes?
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I’m Meg, one of the female members.
I really relate to you, and I feel like cheering you on even more~ ☆
I’m active during the daytime too (*^^*)
I’m married, in my 40s, and have children.
As for my looks, I probably don’t even come close to yours.
I hope you’re able to work out the time constraints.
I’m rooting for you♪
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I’m Joe, a columnist.
I’ll leave it to Maezawa to decide whether there are offers matching your terms, but please allow me to answer from the perspective of a male member.
I’ve also made offers to women with terms like yours. They were attractive women with good common sense, but things didn’t last. There were two main reasons.
1. She seemed fairly confident about her appearance, but at the same time, she was overly self-effacing, saying things like, “I have children, and I’m not young anymore.” While it’s difficult to have a truly equal relationship at a dating club, I suspect that many men may actually feel unsatisfied when the imbalance goes too far.
First of all, please register with confidence!
2. I thought I understood her time constraints, but I didn’t see an attitude that made her willing to jump into things with me within those limitations, so we couldn’t continue. That was due to my own narrow-mindedness, but if you meet a man who makes you think, “With this person, maybe,” then try taking the plunge without hesitation, within the limits of your circumstances.
I hope you have a wonderful encounter.
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