I may be identifiable, but swallowing my embarrassment, I'd like to ask a lot of questions, including a lengthy rant.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > How would you feel if a woman you offered to meet wrote in her profile comments after meeting you, “My type is someone completely different from you”? I think I’d just think, “Oh, I see,” and leave it at that. I don’t think you need to worry about it. In the end, I’d probably place more importance on how things go when we actually meet. > He was late, hadn’t made a reservation, and after we entered the restaurant, he started negotiating about an adult relationship only a few minutes into our first meeting. > We both agreed that any relationship would start from the next meeting onward, but honestly, he isn’t my type. What this seems to tell us is that you don’t like: - People who are late - People who don’t make reservations - People who bring up an adult relationship only a few minutes into the first meeting If you want to turn him down, these reasons are clear enough that I think you could simply tell him as much. It might also help to add: “My type is someone who seems like they have little sexual desire but actually does, and I’d like that kind of person to shyly ask for an adult relationship toward the end of the first meeting or from the second meeting onward. I know it sounds contradictory, but I’d like them to act that way for the first few hours.” That said, I’m not quite sure what “asking shyly” means, and it sounds like it would require some pretty advanced technique. Would it be something like this? *fidgeting shyly* “Um… if you don’t mind…” “No, I mean… really, it’s only if you want to. If… if you…” “If you’d be okay with it… no… maybe it’s impossible after all?” “Hmm…” “I’m really sorry to bring this up…” “Maybe I should just forget it…” “But… still…” “I’d like it if we could become closer someday…” “No, forget I said that…” Is that what you mean by asking shyly? That’s way too difficult >＜ Also, I think it would be a good idea to write in your comments: “My type is someone who seems like they have little sexual desire but actually does, and I’d like that kind of person to shyly ask for an adult relationship toward the end of the first meeting or from the second meeting onward. I know it sounds contradictory, but I’d like them to act that way for the first few hours.” > Is there any way to reply to someone who answered this question besides posting a new question? There isn’t, so please post whatever you’d like to say. If a post doesn’t meet the criteria, it won’t be displayed, but respondents can still see questions that aren’t publicly visible. However, anything resembling harassment or defamation will be deleted, in which case the respondent won’t be able to see it either.

I’m Seattle, a columnist and respondent. Since there are only one-seventh as many men as women, you may not come across many especially wonderful people. You may have to keep things transactional and focus on the money. The profiles are fairly detailed, though some can be vague. As others have mentioned, if you update your comments, they’ll appear as they are, and if you write what you’re looking for there, people will read it properly. Others have posted new questions as well, so I don’t think you need to worry about it. If it doesn’t actually qualify as a question, the respondents may see it, but it might not be displayed publicly. Another option is to comment on one of the columns written by a respondent. They’ll receive a real-time email notification saying that someone commented on their column, so they’ll know. Most column writers will probably reply fairly quickly. Some Type B women are effectively Type A and keep stringing someone along for multiple meetings. The man who made that offer probably didn’t want to waste his time, so he asked directly, prepared to be disliked—and, as expected, was disliked. If there was still no progress after the second meeting, he probably intended to give her ¥5,000 and leave after a few minutes without even having dinner. He was late too, so it wasn’t exactly smooth or classy, but I can understand his feelings a little. In that case, he could simply make offers to Type C or D women, but apparently you had enough appeal that he wanted to meet you. These things come down to fate, so try meeting him a few more times, and if you can’t stand it, cut things off.

I’m a male member who goes by Paper Airplane. I think most Type B women have concerns similar to yours. As you mentioned in your question, men may ask about pursuing a relationship, so it’s only natural—and perfectly normal—to be even more cautious. I recommend updating your profile comments as soon as possible without worrying about it. It may be easier for both sides to find a good match if you clearly state that you want to take an adult relationship carefully and that you’re looking for someone like the person you described. In my case, I prefer to avoid women who are closer to Type C than Type B, so men may be more likely to approach you when they can understand your expectations from the information in your profile. In practice, people who understand each other’s perspectives from the start can build trust more easily and move forward with greater peace of mind. That man was far too quick to ask, but from a man’s perspective, when things start progressing, it’s also a major concern whether there’s a chance the woman will be able to accept him on an instinctive, physical level. He’s probably wondering, “I wonder if she would?” From a woman’s perspective, when meeting for the second or third time, it’s natural to become wary and wonder whether the man is expecting the relationship to progress. So when you meet him for the second or third time, I think it would be a good idea to consider whether you actually like him, while also discussing whether his expectations align with the way you want things to proceed.