To all the male members: Is there a woman who dates only you?
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What can I do to make her focus only on me and stop seeing other male members?
The woman I’m seeing is in the higher tier. I’ve asked whether there’s anything she wants or hopes for and even offered to increase her allowance, but she only says that what we have now is more than enough.
I try to be as much of a gentleman as possible, but what can I do to make her feel that being with me alone is enough for her?
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> What kind of effort would make her focus only on me and stop seeing other male members?
It depends on the woman’s personal outlook, so I think some women simply won’t change their minds no matter how much effort you make.
If she feels more secure being with one man for a long time, and comes to see you as someone she can trust, there’s a chance the relationship could develop that way. In that case, your efforts may pay off.
However, if she feels uneasy relying on just one man because she worries he might cut things off at any time, and believes she’ll feel more secure seeing multiple men, then I think it would be difficult no matter how much effort you make.
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I’m Meg, a female member.
After reading your post, I get the impression that you’re a wonderful man who genuinely cares about your partner. She also says that the allowance she’s receiving now is more than enough. What a refreshingly ungreedy person.
It sounds like you have a wonderful relationship, yet you’re still hoping for something more.
In that case, why not bring up the possibility of taking a break from the club? That may help you find out whether she’s happy with having only you. (Though, of course, it’s possible she’s doing papa-katsu elsewhere.)
In my case, the man I’m seeing told me about the option of taking a break, and I’m currently on one.
The reason is exactly what Mac wrote:
1) From the very beginning, his stance was that having just one papa (a male supporter) was enough.
P.S. Welcome back, Mac♪
I’m honored that you remembered me.
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I’m Kamihikoki, a male member.
As Mack wrote, I think it would be difficult, so it may be a shortcut to look for women who are already looking for that kind of arrangement.
As Saito wrote, there’s no way to prove that you’re the only one. Even if a woman says you are…
Most women will say they’re only seeing one person. If you’re meeting frequently, they probably won’t tell you, “I’m seeing someone else too”…
In my case, I believe one woman really is seeing only me. With two others, I suspect that’s probably the case. One says I’m the only one, but I doubt it.
The others only meet me occasionally, so of course I’m not the only one.
I’ve also been turned down outright by women who were looking for someone who only sees one person, because they weren’t exclusive themselves.
In your case, since the woman hasn’t even tried to hide the fact that she’s seeing others, I think it will be difficult for things to change unless you make a major change to your own approach.
The more high-end the woman, the more fulfilled she tends to be in other areas of her life, so I think you need to give her an even stronger sense that she’s special to you—and only you.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
I have just one person as well.
How did it end up that way?
I treated her very well, stopped accepting offers, and talked with her about how we wanted to approach our relationship.
Before I knew it, that’s how things had become.
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
How about continuing the relationship long-term and simply waiting patiently and gentlemanly until the other men drop out?
I think a deeper personal trust would develop over time, and the woman might also prefer a long-term arrangement, so it doesn’t seem like a bad approach.
That said, it’s probably impossible to tell whether the other men have dropped out. So rather than repeatedly asking her about it, I think all you can do is build enough trust for her to bring it up herself.
I’m jealous that you can be moved so deeply by your feelings ^^;
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I’m Saito, the columnist♪
How can she prove that she isn’t meeting other male members? You should assume that’s impossible to verify.
You can’t control the time you don’t see, either. Can’t you simply accept that as part of the transactional relationship?
It feels similar to the situation with Mr. Ghosn...
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
I think the two women I’ve been seeing for a long time probably only see me—though I can’t say for sure. They’re extremely busy with work. I’ve already left the club without renewing, but they were standard-tier, with a fairly average allowance.
I suppose the only thing you can do is be a gentleman.
And when it comes to women in the higher tiers, you’re guaranteed to have rivals. If you want to have one exclusively, the allowance would have to outweigh the risk she takes if you cut her off. I imagine negotiations would immediately involve a seven-figure lump-sum payment.
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