I feel guilty when I get bored (unfortunately, I lose interest in most people after just a few dates). But I can’t change the fact that I’ve lost interest.
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Do any of you feel this way? If so, how do you deal with it?
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I feel the same way as you do.
There’s nothing more painful than continuing to sleep with the same person.
So each time, I give a somewhat generous allowance, knowing it could be our last.
Lately, I’ve realized that if I’m going to keep worrying about the other person’s feelings, it’s actually cheaper to just get three women together at a high-end soapland instead.
(They’re tested for STIs, too.)
Each option has its own advantages, though...
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I’m Meg, a female member.
If I understand “getting bored” to mean losing interest, and “feeling guilty” to mean feeling bad about it, then perhaps you simply haven’t met someone yet who makes you want to know more about them.
Also, judging from your use of words like “unfortunately” and “feeling guilty,” it doesn’t seem as though you really want to keep switching from one person to another.
With the next person, why not give it a try with a little more curiosity and a desire to explore?
As I wrote this, I was shouting internally, “You get bored after just a few dates? Seriously?!”
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I’m Flag Maker, a column writer.
Personally, I think it’s a shame to get bored after just a few encounters. Of course, sometimes you’re simply not compatible, but there are so many different things you can try when it comes to sex. ^^
If you see it as a chance to test your skills or discover what really makes your partner feel good, there’s always something new to learn, and it gets more enjoyable each time.
The last girl I met was so sensitive that she’d start twitching just from a light touch with my tongue.
I couldn’t keep up with her movements, so I kept missing the spot. Just trying to follow her movements was a real struggle. My neck muscles nearly cramped, lol.
Next time, I’ll keep up with her movements. I’m training my neck muscles until they’re rock solid.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I’m not really sure what it means to get bored of someone. I even wonder whether that can really happen.
Why do people get bored? Maybe they haven’t properly figured out their own preferences, or perhaps they’re choosing based on looks.
But honestly, I’m not sure.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
That’s just how male biology works, so sooner or later, you naturally get tired of things. Costumes or changing up the setting can help change the mood a little, but it also depends on whether she’s the type to get into it.
That’s why what really matters is whether you enjoy talking with her during the time you’re not being intimate. I try to come up with all kinds of regular dates.
No matter how much she resembled Minami Hoshino, if the conversation didn’t flow, I ended things.
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I’m a male member, Papercraft.
Maybe it’s not such a bad thing for both of you to get bored with it.
When you can feel that the other person has special feelings for you—and that you have special feelings for them—I don’t think you’ll get bored.
Whether it’s with a woman or in business, if you shower the other person with the things that make them happy—the very things you don’t want to do—they’ll naturally come to you and stay.
Once you start seeing the results, you may find yourself wanting to do those things you once didn’t want to do.
If that sounds like too much trouble—or if there’s nothing you can give each other—then maybe getting bored is just about right…
P.S. I think whether an arrangement continues long-term or ends quickly may also depend on whether you’re the type who keeps feeding the fish after catching it, or the type who doesn’t.
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