There’s a woman I’ve been seeing for years—no sex, just meals.
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We often spend our dates at museums or theaters.
I think I’ve also been able to help fill some of the gaps in her life, in my own small way.
I’ve even taken her overseas several times to broaden her horizons.
She seems to regard me as the very image of a gentleman worthy of respect.
When she occasionally comes to me for advice, she seems to treat me as someone capable of making better judgments than even her parents, so it doesn’t seem to be mere flattery.
Of course, I’m actually no gentleman at all. I’m nothing more than a sailor-uniform fetishist who likes finishing inside women, so I feel awkward when she puts her trust in me, and I feel somewhat guilty about letting her continue to misunderstand me.
Perhaps that’s simply what dating is: both people only ever see the side the other chooses to perform.
After all, she’s probably nothing more than a woman enduring being finished inside by other wealthy old men for 100,000 yen per meeting.
I can’t deny that I’m “deceiving her” and “lying to her.”
Should I continue like this?
I’m Flagmaker, a column writer.
Lately, I’ve come to feel that simply being able to have emotions and worry about things is itself a blessing.
I think it’s okay to value that part of yourself, take plenty of time to think things through, and eventually make your decision.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> When I occasionally ask him for advice, he seems to treat me like someone capable of making better judgments than my own parents.
It sounds like he gives accurate answers and is someone you can rely on when you seek his advice. And even if someone like that happens to love intimacy, there’s nothing strange about it. I don’t think his sexual preferences have anything to do with it.
There’s no doubt that he’s a dependable older man, so I think you can feel confident about that.
Try to keep those things separate in your mind. You don’t need to be consumed by guilt.
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I’m Saito, a columnist♪
As you said, she’s sleeping with other male members too—while looking at them with the same admiring gaze.
So don’t let it bother you.
It’s just a part-time job paying tens of thousands of yen an hour to be liked by a middle-aged man who pays ¥100,000.
If you look at it that way, there’s no point wasting time worrying about it. There are countless beautiful women like that out there.
So try to put a positive, transactional spin on it.
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This is Joe, the columnist.
First of all, I want to make it clear that I’m absolutely on your side.
So, while sharing the female member’s “That’s disgusting” response with you—well, enjoying it together, in a way—I also find myself thinking, “Yeah, I guess it really is creepy,” and shedding a few tears. They’re fake tears, though.
I may claim to be on your side, but this might sound like I’m pulling the rug out from under you. In the end, though, I think it all comes down to your decision. You can keep playing the fake gentleman, or confess your feelings and go down in flames. Either way, whatever the outcome, that’s part of the real appeal of a dating club.
Incidentally, in my case, no matter how well I act, people always tell me, “I knew from the start that you were a pervert, Joe.” They may see right through you more than you think.
I hope you’re able to maintain a good relationship with her.
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I’m Date◎Yume, a male member.
Whether you decide to continue or end things, I think it’s best to make sure you’re both satisfied with the decision.
In particular, how you part ways matters.
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I’m a male member from Seattle. I’m a big fan of gym uniforms and maid outfits.
It’s a win-win relationship, so what’s the problem? I think it’s fine to keep it going for the rest of your lives.
Personally, though, I’m curious how much you’re paying for dinner-only dates.
I also divide my time between women who are intimate with me and virgins who are Type A, but I only pay 10,000 yen, including transportation, for dinner. Maybe we’re both just doing this to kill time.
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