I’m BB7, a male member.
Is this man nothing more than a convenient source of money and work for you?
If I were a woman, I’d be deeply grateful to a man who treated me this well and would naturally want to cherish him. It wouldn’t even occur to me to wonder whether I should or shouldn’t.
It suddenly made me feel lonely, wondering if he’s the only one getting emotionally invested.
If being in such an intense relationship feels like a burden, I think ending it is the right choice.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> Around 50,000–70,000 yen, about two or three times a month
If you’re studying abroad or have some other goal, I think it would be nice to receive at least 300,000 yen a month, or ideally around 600,000 yen. In that sense, your current support seems a little insufficient.
Someone mentioned this before, but I think it makes a lot of sense that it’s better to receive support from several men rather than rely on just one.
If you try to depend on one man for 600,000 yen a month, it could create friction.
But if several men each provide a little support, and together they help her out, she can achieve her goal while maintaining good relationships with all of them.
Since you’re not trying to become their girlfriend, there’s no need for exclusivity. I think it’s enough for each person to give you their full attention when you meet.
> I don’t think they’re romantic prospects for me either.
Since they aren’t romantic prospects, I can’t think of any option other than continuing to see them in a matter-of-fact way. However, I do think it’s necessary to prioritize based on the amount of support they provide.
I think it’s only natural to prioritize the better supporters.
> Should I continue seeing them all equally, without getting emotionally involved?
I think that would be best.
I don’t think things have reached the point where you need to distance yourself from them. If one of them starts acting like a stalker, you can distance yourself then.
> I’m starting to feel like I might quit, but can I really trust him completely?
Unless he has asked you to quit, I don’t think the question of whether you can trust him even arises yet.
It’s something to consider only after he actually asks you to quit.
> He was genuinely worried that continuing this kind of activity would damage my character.
That’s contradictory.
If you accepted what he said, then it would mean you’d also need to part ways with that man. But have you really decided to end things with all of them?
If this activity is damaging your character, I think you should look into exactly what is causing that.
It’s possible for your sense of money to become distorted. But if that’s what he means by your character being damaged, then it would mean that nearly all the wealthy men registered with Universe have damaged characters.
In reality, though, very few of them seem like bad people.
(Some of them may not be particularly gentlemanly, but that’s different.)
Also, if we knew specifically what “having your character damaged” actually looks like, there might be ways to prevent it from happening.
I’m Saito, the column writer♪
To wealthy people, it’s such a trivial amount that you really don’t need to worry about it.
As for “it will damage your character”… that’s simply the male member’s opinion, and I think it’s reasonable that he isn’t forcing you to quit.
There doesn’t seem to be any particular problem with this arrangement, but…
I’m Paper Airplane, a male club member.
If you’re asking this question here, does that mean meeting this man is causing you quite a lot of stress and requiring you to put up with a lot?
Since you don’t see him as a romantic prospect, I think it’s perfectly fine to keep seeing him in a detached, transactional way through the club.
If you leave the club and he becomes your only supporter, it seems like your stress would increase even more.
He also seems young, so I’m sure he fully understands that without the club, he wouldn’t be able to meet a wonderful woman like you. That means he probably won’t make particularly difficult demands, and since he likely wants to provide even more support than he does now, I don’t think you’ll run into any major problems by accepting that support without holding back.
In fact, from the man’s perspective, providing as much support as he can probably makes it easier for him to accept things and move on. Even if the relationship ends, it may make it easier for you to maintain a good relationship afterward.
I also imagine he’s providing support while managing things so that he’ll be prepared in case you end things at any time. So you should be able to cut ties completely whenever you choose.
There’s no need for you to endure this or worry about it.
If you leave the club and keep putting up with everything just because this man provides a large allowance, I feel that may eventually wear you down as a person.
People can’t keep forcing themselves to endure things for very long.
I think it would benefit both of you to maintain a transactional relationship while calmly keeping some distance.
