We really hit it off at the first meeting. I agreed to her allowance request without hesitation, she asked for my contact information, waved and watched me leave, thanked me right away, and even contacted me the next day. But now she won’t respond to my invitation for a second meeting.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here. Even when women start disliking a man, they’ll often keep pretending until they end things. Some women will smile and put up with things during a date that they really hate. They’ll respond with a smile even when you’d normally think, “Isn’t that enough to make someone snap?” Apparently, even when they’re saying goodbye, they may wave as if nothing is wrong. Women’s patience and ability to act are truly impressive. Men often fail to notice this and assume the woman likes them. I can’t say for sure why, but generally speaking, common reasons seem to include: - The allowance was too low. - He tried to proceed without contraception or even mentioning it. (Even if he uses contraception after being warned, many women feel that the damage is already done and decide at that point that there won’t be a next time.) That seems to happen fairly often. That said, if she contacted you the next day, she probably still had a positive impression of you at least until then, so something may have happened afterward. It’s also possible that she met a good man on her next date and decided to focus on him, or that she lost her phone and became unreachable. Since the club can relay a message to her, you could ask the staff to check whether she may have lost her phone or otherwise become unable to contact you. If that isn’t the case, then she has probably rejected you. You may never know the reason, but I think it would be better to move on and start looking for someone new.

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ That’s just how it is. It’s only fair to think, “Thank you for doing your best to deal with me, even though I was someone unpleasant.”

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Unfortunately, situations like the one you described do seem to happen from time to time. That’s not right. Even when the terms aren’t mutually agreeable, I do wish they would approach the matter more sincerely.

I’m a male member, “Kamihikōki.” If the woman’s requested amount isn’t too high and I like her, I sometimes give a little extra at the first meeting. She may appreciate it and feel that I’m a kind person. If her requested amount is within what I’m willing to accept, I generally don’t take the initiative in contacting her to arrange another meeting. I might meet again if I remember that we had good physical chemistry, but I assume she won’t contact me about meeting either.