I’m a 22-year-old female member who often reads this Q&A section and finds it very helpful. I’d really appreciate advice from both men and women, if possible.
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I’m currently registered as Type B and have received several offers, but I still haven’t found the courage to move forward, so I’ve continued seeing them for dinner only (no intimacy) even after the second meeting.
(The men have all been gentlemen and have respected my feelings by waiting for me. I feel overwhelmed by both gratitude and guilt.)
I suppose it would be understandable if people called this “dating-type fraud.”
However, it’s not that I’m completely against taking things further. Perhaps because I grew up in a household without a father figure, I’m actually very attracted to older men. I enjoy talking with them, and I learn a lot from our conversations.
Still, I’ve started to feel anxious.
To be honest, I have very little experience with men. I know it’s contradictory to register as Type B in the first place, but I don’t feel confident about accepting an allowance and moving on to an adult relationship (intimate)…
The female members I see on this Q&A site all seem incredibly attractive and very knowledgeable about men. I worry about being compared with them.
Men, are you generally attracted to women who are proactive and skilled when it comes to intimacy? Would being with someone inexperienced put you off?
And women, when things become intimate with a man you met here, do you make an effort to be more proactive than you would be in a private relationship?
I’m sorry for asking so many questions. Apologies for the long post.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
You wrote:
“I have almost no experience with men.”
“Someone with little experience.”
So I assume you’ve already had some experience, but even virgins sometimes enter into adult relationships with men here, so I’m not really sure what you mean.
It’s not about having more or less experience—it’s simply whether you’re comfortable with participating in a dating club.
Given your current situation, I think you’re a Dating Type A.
Even women classified as Dating Type A sometimes enter into an adult relationship if they feel the other person is a good one.
With that in mind, you seem far too unassertive to be considered Dating Type B. I think you should switch to Dating Type A right away.
> Are you still attracted to women who are enthusiastic and skilled when it comes to intimacy?
I think I am.
> Do you lose interest in someone with little experience?
Not at all.
However, regardless of how much or how little experience she has, I think I would lose interest if she showed no reaction whatsoever.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
It feels like all the answers have already been covered, but I’ll add just a little（笑）
I think you’d be better off choosing Type A.
Of course, I’m attracted to women who are enthusiastic and skilled when it comes to intimacy.
I don’t lose interest just because she’s inexperienced, but I do find myself thinking, “Come on, let’s be a little more enthusiastic!”
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I’m Saito♪, a column writer.
I think this is something you should discuss with the staff at Universe.
- You don’t want to choose Relationship Type B and have male members complain, thinking you’re being deceptive.
- You don’t want to choose Relationship Type A and end up receiving fewer offers.
- You haven’t lied about anything.
I imagine those are the three things you’re worried about, but if you focus only on your own concerns, you’ll simply end up choosing whatever is most convenient for you—and in the end, I feel there’s a risk of being misunderstood.
That said, to borrow the words of the “papa-katsu gentleman,” I don’t think it will be a problem as long as male members don’t come to see you as “a liar and an insincere person.”
Offers won’t continue forever, either, and there’s a good chance he may move on while you’re busy feeling sorry about it. There are many women that this happens to.
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I’m Joe, a columnist.
While they may not be the majority, I believe there are quite a few male members who are looking for women like you.
So personally, I don’t think you need to call yourself a “catfish” at all. I’m sure you’ve already discussed it with him, but please try to clearly explain your wishes to the man you’re seeing. I think there are men who would be happy to accept them. At the same time, please subtly show through your words and actions that you’re “overflowing with gratitude”—or rather, “packed to the brim” with it.
I hope you have a wonderful relationship.
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I’m a male member, and my username is Paper Airplane.
For men looking for an A type or an A-leaning B type, you’re exactly that—an ideal A-leaning B type.
In my case, I make offers to B types hoping they’ll be someone like you. I look for women who have watched the videos carefully and weren’t wavering between B and C—instead, they were closer to wavering between A and B. B types who are cautious about an adult relationship (intimate).
As long as you clearly explain, as you have, that you’re having trouble moving things forward, I don’t think there’s any problem. Men who want someone closer to a C type will probably simply give up and make offers to other women.
I imagine the men you’re meeting are more than satisfied—in fact, they’re probably enjoying themselves.
From the men’s perspective, it may be something they really look forward to, and they may feel excited thinking about what could happen if things progress. Even if it ultimately doesn’t, they’ll probably just accept that they weren’t able to make it happen because they weren’t attractive enough to take things that far. I don’t think that alone would make them stop wanting to see you.
I also imagine that even if things don’t progress, the men you’re meeting may still want to continue supporting you for a long time.
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I’m Basil, a male member.
Personally, I’m not put off by someone with little experience. Nor do I think the women who answer questions here represent women in general. In fact, I find women who aren’t overly familiar with men refreshing and, in their own way, attractive.
That said, what do you think about continuing with Dating Type B without ever taking things further, despite meeting and being attracted to several men? If you’re aware that this could be considered a dating-type scam, perhaps your anxiety won’t change going forward. The fact that the men you’ve met so far have been so understanding is simply good luck. I wouldn’t continue with dinner-only dates indefinitely.
Your offers may decrease, but please consider the other male members as well and change your dating type. Half of the women don’t receive any offers.
Fortunately, it sounds like you’re seeing a few people, so cherish your current relationships and accomplish what you originally registered for.
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