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Dec 27, 2019 17:59
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Type B means that the relationship may develop into an adult relationship (intimate) from the second date onward, rather than on the first date. However, when men hear “Type B,” I assume—perhaps incorrectly—that they expect an adult relationship on the second or third date, so I’d like to ask my question on that basis.
I’m not opposed to an adult relationship. If I feel that someone is the right person, I’m open to developing that kind of relationship with him.
However, it’s difficult for me to make that decision by the second or third date, and lately I’ve started feeling bad that I may be getting my partners’ hopes up. (On our second date, he asked if we could start from the next time onward, but I turned him down, saying that I wasn’t ready yet.)
It’s not as though simply going on a certain number of dates means I’ll immediately be ready for that kind of relationship. I also wonder whether my own emotional hurdle is simply too high.
What I mean is that, rather than continuing to register as Type B and raising men’s expectations, I’ve started wondering whether it would be better to switch to Type A and look for partners that way, so I wouldn’t disappoint them.
I’d sincerely appreciate everyone’s honest opinions.
Thank you in advance, and I apologize for the long post.
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I’m Saito, a column writer♪
I agree with Mac.
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Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe staff
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Looking at the other answers, it seems that Type B would generally be acceptable. Strictly speaking, Type B means being open to an adult relationship from the second meeting onward, so based on what you’ve described, Type B should be fine.
However, over the past few years, men have increasingly complained about what they call “dating-type fraud,” and clubs have been taking those concerns seriously and implementing countermeasures. Given the current situation, unfortunately, I have to say that with your current mindset, there’s a high possibility of receiving complaints from men.
From the club’s current perspective, that would make Type B difficult, and based on your attitude, Type A may be more appropriate.
That said, if you clearly explain what you’ve written here to the men you meet, and they understand and agree that it makes sense, I don’t think it would lead to complaints.
So, as long as no complaints have been made, I think it’s probably fine for you to remain Type B.
The club also has no problem as long as no complaints come in from men. Since the original meaning of Type B is that an adult relationship may be possible from the second meeting onward, it may be fine for you to stay as you are.
However, it’s also possible that you haven’t received any complaints precisely because you genuinely consider the men each time you meet them. The moment you casually switch to the mindset of “It’s fine because that’s what the advice box said,” I think a complaint could be made to the club.
So I believe the important condition is that you continue to feel the way you do now.
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Mパパ、永遠の交際継続中!
B1タイプ〜A寄りパパです!
会う度大人は嫌と感じる方………ご相談ください。
Age: Private
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m a male member, Paper Airplane.
If you’re not placing much emphasis on receiving a generous allowance, I think Type A would be a good choice, since you’re open to an adult relationship (intimate) if you become close.
However, if you choose Type A, you may end up receiving almost no offers. Compared with Type B, the number could drop to as little as one-fifth or even one-tenth.
Since you initially chose Type B, I get the impression that the allowance is also fairly important to you. If you receive almost no offers, that would make it much harder to achieve your goal.
To avoid mismatches with men, why not stick with Type B and, as Mac suggested, add a more detailed comment and a video?
If your video explains your relationship preferences in detail—even if it’s a long one—and shows you thinking it over, men will have a clearer idea of whether you lean more toward Type A or Type C.
If Type B has no age restrictions, most men will assume they’re eligible. To narrow things down, you might want to mention your age preferences, or explain that you prioritize personality first, appearance second, and money third, and that compatibility in areas other than money is important to you.
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Universe member
I’m date◎yume, a male member.
That’s a good question.
I’m sure there are quite a few female members like you.
I think you would be better off switching to Type A.
<Reasons>
1. With Type A, it’s dinner only, so it won’t progress into an adult relationship (intimate). The club’s purpose is to introduce members, so that purpose is fulfilled.
After members have been introduced to each other, any further relationship is simply a matter of free choice between two consenting adults. So there’s nothing unusual about it developing into an intimate relationship.
2. With Type B, there is a possibility that things may develop into an adult relationship from the second meeting onward. Since it doesn’t specify how many meetings this applies to, basically any number of meetings would be acceptable—and it would also be fine if things never progressed to an intimate relationship.
That brings us to the question: Why deliberately divide things into Type A and Type B?
I assume the distinction reflects the female member’s personality and attitude toward relationships. Type B is for women who can decide relatively quickly—within four or five dates at most—whether they want to pursue a relationship. Women like you, whose feelings and personal comfort matter more than the number of meetings, may naturally need more time, so Type A allows things to proceed more like an ordinary relationship between a man and a woman.
For male members using a dating club, time is especially important because the amount of time they have left is limited. Since they need to make effective use of their time, I believe they are offered Type A or Type B according to the kind of relationship they are seeking.
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Age: 40s
👨 Male
Universe member
I’m Flag Maker, a columnist.
I suppose you could call this the dilemma of a Type B. I’m sure there are plenty of other Type B women who feel the same way, not just the person who asked this question.
To put it in a somewhat polished way, I think a gentlemanly male member’s role is to be patient, take the long view, and help her gradually open up. But in reality, many people probably aren’t willing to wait that long...
Unfortunately, even if you become intimate after meeting for dinner many times, the relationship may still end there if you turn out not to be compatible.
So, as Mac suggested, I think it would be helpful to mention this in your profile comments, so you can meet someone who finds that serious side of you “adorable.”