I’m a male member. Since I’m married, it’s difficult to go on dates with my regular partner over the New Year holidays. If I know her bank account details, do men ever send her a transfer as a New Year’s gift?

I’m Saito, a column writer ♪ I never send money without reason, but I have occasionally made a mistake with the allowance and sent a payment.

I’m Hikōki, a male member. Since it’s the end of the year, dates may be difficult to arrange. But even for married women, year-end parties and end-of-year work gatherings are genuinely common, so it’s easier than usual to have a reason for getting home late. Since she’s a regular, you could meet her briefly during or after a year-end party, saying, “I just wanted to see you, even if it’s only for five minutes.” Or, if you’re taking her to see her family for the holidays, you could give her some New Year’s money. The shorter the meeting, the more touched and happy she’ll be! If you’ve shown her kindness consistently, I think she’ll come to see you because she wants to see your face, too. I generally don’t recommend sending money by bank transfer to someone you met through a dating club (though I can’t strongly object since I might do it myself…). Compared with someone you met elsewhere, it seems to lack a certain freshness and element of surprise. P.S. In my case, it was only for a minute or two, but I was happy because she understood how I felt and was pleased as well. It became a wonderful memory.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. I’m married too, but I never transfer money to bank accounts. Everything is paid in cash. I take the utmost care not to leave a trace and cause anyone any inconvenience.