Good evening.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. > I have several dates lined up before the end of the year, and I’m writing this question feeling incredibly nervous and excited. Haha. I completely understand how you feel. Men feel the same way, too. > She was put off. When I had just joined, I thought, “This is a club for adult relationships, right?” and included a risqué joke in an email. I didn’t think the content was particularly vulgar, but she suddenly reported me to the club as an inappropriate member, and I was removed. Even now, I still wish that if she had decided I was an inappropriate male member, she could simply have replied, “I’m not comfortable with risqué jokes, so I don’t think we’re a good match.”

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. From what you’ve written, I think they’d be happy if you told them exactly that.

I’m a male member, under the name Kamihikoki. Many women who have just joined come across as naturally fresh and genuine, which leaves a great impression. And relationships with them often last a very long time! Since you’re considering a monthly arrangement, I think someone who has just joined is more likely to be open to that. What men tend to like about newcomers is that they: - Are happy about everything - Are still fresh and uncalculating when it comes to the allowance - Show natural joy and excitement in everything they do - Don’t yet seem like they’re calculating everything That alone can make a man completely hooked. Once he feels like she might gradually take on his influence, he’ll become even more invested. If she asks for a cute, modest allowance, he may try even harder to please her—sometimes wanting to give her several times that amount just so she’ll like him. At first, I think it’s fine either not to name an amount or simply say, “I’m not sure yet.” If you’re aiming for a monthly arrangement, that can make a man want to show his affection by being more generous with the allowance. P.S. I think the first date, or the first few dates, are a great opportunity to build a long-term or monthly arrangement. I’m looking for something long-term, so when I meet someone around her first date after joining, we usually have an amazing time and continue to have a great relationship afterward. Sorry m(_ _)m I got excited thinking about a newcomer’s first date and wrote my answer based on that. After rereading your question, I realized you never said she was new, so I’m sorry if I misunderstood.

I’m Flag Maker, a column writer. I’m naturally suspicious and not the easiest person to deal with, and I tend to get nervous, so especially during the meal on a first date, I honestly don’t feel particularly happy no matter what she says to me. It’s only after we’ve been intimate, I feel that we have good chemistry when kissing and during sex, and we have an enjoyable pillow talk while cuddling afterward that I finally feel happy, thinking, “Ah, maybe she accepted me to some extent.” We may not have held hands when entering the hotel, but when she holds my hand as we leave, smiles from ear to ear, and says, “That was fun♪”—that makes me incredibly happy.

I’m a BB7 male member. “I’m truly happy that, out of all the beautiful women out there, you chose to make me an offer.” I think it’s fine to simply say that as it is（笑） If you genuinely feel grateful and happy, the best thing is to express it honestly. On the other hand, obvious lies, flattery, predictable responses, and superficial techniques are really off-putting. I hope you have a wonderful encounter.

I’m Seattle, a male member. When she told me she was genuinely looking forward to seeing me, I was really happy. I didn’t think it was too much at all—it only made me even more motivated.