I’m BB7, a male member.
Even if a woman is invited, she has the right to decline if she doesn’t want to—whether she’s Type C or Type D. She can simply say clearly, “I’m sorry, but I’d prefer dinner only this time,” and turn him down.
If the man gets offended or accuses her of misrepresenting her type, he’s the one in the wrong. If that happens, report him to the club. (Of course, if she really did falsely claim her type, that’s a separate matter.)
I’m Saito, a columnist♪
I think it would be best to be honest and let the club know: “I’m sorry, but I’m not really feeling up to it, since I’ll probably just be criticized over various things afterward.”
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
> Of course, I understand that I’m supposed to accept, but...
That’s not necessarily the case.
It’s perfectly fine to decline. Since this is a free-choice relationship, you should only accept people you actually like.
With Type C, there’s about a 50% chance that the woman will agree to a relationship after dinner. So there’s absolutely nothing wrong with turning someone down. However, many women feel the same way, so quite a few who are actually Type C are classified as Type B to make it easier for them to decline.
Men don’t complain in these cases. It’s strange—if the situation is reversed, they get angry.
I assume you’re asking how to decline while remaining Type C. As others have mentioned, if you ask for terms that exceed what the other person is hoping for, it may simply end with both of you feeling that your expectations didn’t align.
However, some men may still agree if you ask for roughly double, so if you truly don’t want to proceed, you may want to be careful.
Also, if you stated unusually high expectations just to turn someone down, it would be a good idea to contact the club afterward and say something like:
“I reported higher expectations than usual because I wanted to decline. I’m just letting you know to be safe.”
A man might report something like, “This woman has a completely unrealistic sense of money,” and if the staff believe him, it could affect future offers.
> I’ve heard that some men let women go home after dinner only, but do people like that really exist?
Based on what you’ve written, I think you might be better suited to changing to Type B.
You can change your relationship type by logging into your member page, so why not switch to Type B?
The club will probably ask you why, and I think it’s best to answer honestly.
You may find the kind of man you’re looking for.
With Type B, the first meeting ends after dinner only, but from the second meeting onward, you can choose to have a relationship beyond dinner with a man you like.
I’m Hikoki, a male member.
Like momo, try asking how much allowance she wants. If you then name an amount that’s either double what the man offered or ¥100,000 more, I think most men will give up.
