What’s the going rate for an allowance besides transportation? Is 80,000 yen high for an intimate relationship?

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ It may seem cheap to me, but I don’t know whether you’re someone worth her spending the time to meet.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. If there were a million people in the world exactly like you, then perhaps a going rate could be established. But there is only one you. There is no one else exactly like you. Since you are one of a kind, talking about a “going rate” doesn’t really make sense. So there’s no point in wondering whether ¥80,000 is too much. If you wouldn’t feel satisfied unless you received ¥80,000, then even if some men turn you down, I don’t think you need to say yes until you meet someone willing to pay ¥80,000 or more—someone who sees you as being worth that much. If you simply want as much as possible, then it may be fine to compromise and adjust to what the other person wants. This is something for the two of you to decide, so you’re free to do whatever you want. There’s no such thing as objectively high or low. It’s about whether your wishes and the other person’s wishes match, and what to do when they don’t. If you’re asking how much you should negotiate for, it might be worth letting the man decide at first. However, this does involve risks. Some men may give you only a very small amount. You may end up feeling terribly disappointed. Even so, some men may recognize your value properly and give you an amount that reflects it. Some may even give you gifts in addition to the allowance. Because this approach carries risks, I can’t really recommend it. Still, I think it is one possible option.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. As everyone has said, it’s hard to say across the board whether something is expensive or cheap. I think the amount is ultimately decided at the point where both the person offering and the person receiving it reach an agreement.

I’m Seattle, a male member. That’s pretty expensive. If you’re more attractive than the average woman at Universe Club, though, it’s still within reach.

I’m in my 60s and feeling a little lost. How attractive you are really depends on the discussions you have with the men who make you offers. I don’t think this is really the kind of question that belongs on this Q&A site.