I’ve just finished my third dinner date with a Type B woman who joined the club six months ago. She has me and one other papa (a male supporter), and apparently he only sees her for dinner as well. She’s also extremely popular and has received many offers, but in the end, she only does dinner and hasn’t entered into an intimate relationship with anyone.

This is Saito, a columnist♪ There are women like B out there. She’s a poor woman who was targeted by a friend hoping to get scouted. She may even have learned to lie by saying things like, “I’m also seeing one person in that kind of adult relationship (intimate).” It’s even possible that her friend is advising her. LOL There are all kinds of people, but if you generally treat others with contempt, you won’t have a very promising future. Whether it’s through a dating club, at work, or with a boyfriend, I hope people can meet others they care about and grow together.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. > Please answer this question assuming everything stated is true. If that’s the case, I think there’s a good chance she misunderstood her relationship type. I’d say about three meetings is a reasonable guideline. If you’re still unsure after that, I’d prefer you to classify her as Type A. That said, we won’t know for sure without asking the woman as well. (As a rule, we ask both parties.) For that reason, I think you should share feedback on what happened with the branch you’re registered with. However, whether they issue a serious warning is ultimately up to the club. If they receive a report, they’ll ask the woman why she declined. We probably won’t be able to tell the man the details, but if it turns out that her understanding of her relationship type was different, we would likely inform him that her type had been changed, along with that explanation. If there was another reason, we wouldn’t be able to disclose it to the man. For example, she may not have found him attractive but couldn’t bring herself to refuse, so when he said he was fine with dinner only, she simply accepted and continued meeting him. In that case, the response would probably be something vague and unhelpful, like, “We spoke to the woman and reminded her to be more careful.”

30s, new member here. Isn’t that kind of outcome also part of what being a Type B means? If a woman actively invites you to meals or says things that give you hope, yet has no intention of moving toward an adult relationship, that does feel deceptive. But if the man simply assumes that, because she’s Type B, she’ll be open to it, asks her out, and gets turned down, I feel like that’s just something he has to accept. I’ve had a similar experience with another Type B woman. But rather than feeling angry, I mostly felt pathetic and sorry for pressuring her so actively toward an adult relationship without considering how she felt. Maybe I’m just too soft on women… lol.

I’m a male member, BB7. “When you agree that it’s dinner only, you can see each other without putting pressure on either side.” Judging by that statement, I’d say she’s probably an A-type claiming to be B-type. I think the worst are the B-types who are extremely popular and constantly flooded with offers.

I’m male member だて◎ゆめ. I think there’s a good chance she chose Type B simply to get offers. To be frank, I’d call it a dating-type scam. There probably aren’t many female members like that, but it’s important to deal with things while keeping in mind that a few may exist. The question is whether she was aiming for dinner only from the start, or whether things just ended up that way. If she gave the impression that she had intended to keep things dinner-only from the beginning, the arrangement with her should be ended so there aren’t any more victims like you.