Men who show off photos of stacks of cash and designer goods, or talk about having given substantial support to women in the past, always seem to offer what feels like a small allowance to me—around 30,000 yen, for example.

I’m a male member, BB7. > Men who show photos of stacks of cash and luxury goods, and claim they’ve given substantial support to women in the past Do men like this really exist? And if there are women who are swayed by that, then they’re birds of a feather—both fools. It has absolutely nothing to do with the questioner’s attractiveness or anything like that. That man is simply an idiot.

Maezawa from the Business Planning Office will answer as well. > Men who show photos of stacks of cash or designer goods, or talk about having generously supported women in the past Are you referring to dating apps or similar services? In places like that, I think those are simply “bait” used to lure women in. With Universe, there generally aren’t photos of the men, and they generally don’t have comments written by the men themselves either. So I had assumed there was no need to put out bait, and that men wouldn’t be posting photos like those. But perhaps the addition of the male profile feature has led some men to start posting that kind of thing? In Universe’s case, I don’t think it would serve any purpose. If they’re just talking about it, some people may do that. But when the conversation turns to the terms of the arrangement, I think you can simply say: “I’m looking for the same terms.” If the terms don’t match, they’ll probably explain why. And even if you ask for the reason, your expectations still won’t align, so I think you can just end the meeting there.

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. This kind of story is fascinating. I think he’s exactly like me: someone who simply wants to be rich, but remains poor instead. When you come across someone like this, I think it’s worth observing them closely. Will they end up merely poor—or become wealthy? You may find some hints. I recommend spending time with them while also asking yourself, “What would I do in this situation?” Of course, I think turning them down is also perfectly fine.

I’m Saito, a column writer♪ Did the man decide on the amount of 3 on his own? Taking it at face value, I think you should simply accept it as the going rate—or end things if you’re not happy with it. (I don’t think even wealthy men will pay more than necessary.) If you were the one who named the amount, then I don’t think it’s anything to get worked up about. (Though I have a feeling the former is more likely.) This is a slightly similar story, but recently I went to a gathering with some celebrities, and there were an unusually large number of rough-looking young guys there. They were bragging about earning hundreds of millions of yen, and after opening bottle after bottle of champagne at a hostess club, the atmosphere suddenly turned into, “So…who’s paying the bill?” when it was time to settle up. I considered paying, but since it was my first time there, I just enjoyed watching things unfold until the end. It was a completely different world. They talked about nothing but money— but didn’t pay. That said, I think men like this do sometimes pay huge amounts to other women. I don’t think that part is necessarily a lie. Since it’s all about deceiving one another, a bad woman won’t just leave a man like that alone. I’m sure he’s being thoroughly taken advantage of. I don’t usually carry around large bundles of cash, so I’m not entirely sure… (Unless it’s for someone special, it’s quicker to divide it into ¥100,000 portions rather than carrying it in thick bundles when making payments.)

Woman in her 30s, new member I don’t understand the mindset of men like that either… I don’t know the details about this particular male member, but if I were to interpret it negatively, he reminds me of the kind of unpleasant senior colleague you might have at a company—someone who takes you out for drinks and goes on endlessly about himself, yet somehow still makes you split the bill; or who says, “If you do what I say, I’ll recommend you for a promotion,” gets his subordinate to work like crazy, and then throws them under the bus in the end. Perhaps he wants to attract someone with money and subtly expects more from them than before, while being stingy at the same time. He can’t make the first move by investing in someone, is self-centered, loves bragging, and is essentially a timid person. Could that be the kind of man he is? I don’t think this has anything to do with the woman’s appeal—it’s a matter of that male member’s character, so I don’t think you need to worry about it(^^) If you felt it wasn’t worth it at ③, why not negotiate for a higher allowance? If he won’t agree, you can simply part ways. You don’t need to push yourself.