About Having Monolids

New member in my 30s I’m pretty close to Mac’s way of thinking. When a woman comes to me with this kind of concern, I inevitably find myself thinking, “What could I say that would satisfy her?” But when I say, “I think you’re fine just the way you are,” she often looks unconvinced for some reason. On the other hand, if I respond positively with, “You’ll become even cuter!” she tends to be happy. I feel like that’s a fairly common pattern. I think it’s fine as long as you’re able to take responsibility for your own choices, regardless of what people around you say. And from a man’s perspective, since a woman’s personality and inner self won’t change, there’s also a way of thinking that supporting the choices she makes is a form of affection… perhaps? On a personal note, my monolids were passed down to my daughter, so she has monolids too. If she ever pleaded with me in the future to get double eyelid surgery, I’d feel so guilty that I’d probably want to pay for it myself, haha.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. If you haven’t felt self-conscious about it until now, you’re probably just having a moment of doubt. I don’t think having double eyelids automatically makes someone cuter. There are many other features that come together to make you attractive overall. If you get double-eyelid surgery, you may start thinking, “Now this part looks different, so I need surgery here too.” Then, once that’s done, it could become, “Now this part looks different, so I need to fix that too”—and you may end up finding endless things to change. Also, considering that people haven’t reacted all that positively to your makeup-created double eyelids, I don’t think surgery would necessarily give you the face you’re hoping for. With that in mind, I think you’re best off as you are. If you’re consistently receiving offers, you must be a very appealing woman. You’re best just the way you are.

Aizawa from Tokyo here as well. Isn’t this the answer? “People generally don’t have a very good impression of a face made to look double-eyelid with makeup.” I don’t think there’s any need to undergo plastic surgery just to end up with “the same face as everyone else.” Having the same face as everyone else doesn’t mean having a good-looking face—it means having an unremarkable, generic face with no individuality. Especially if you’re consistently receiving offers, wouldn’t it be better to stay as you are?

I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. Personally, I think it’s best to stay the way you are and find someone who likes monolids and falls for you as you are. Why? You mentioned that you’ve been receiving offers consistently since signing up, which makes me think you’re already plenty attractive. There are quite a few people who receive no offers even after registering, so I don’t think you need to force yourself to change an appearance that’s already attractive enough. A long, long time ago, when I was young, people often told me, “Once you’re over twenty, you should be confident about your looks!” I used to think, “But I’m not exactly good-looking, so what am I supposed to do with that advice?” Looking back, though, I’ve come to realize that the things we work on at each stage of our lives eventually show in our expressions and attitudes. We can’t change what we were born with, but our expressions, attitudes, and overall appearance can change through the efforts we make at each point in our lives—through self-improvement. Whether they’re entertainers, businesspeople, or athletes, the people I find attractive are working on themselves to a degree that’s almost incomparable to us ordinary folks. Even if we can’t become truly exceptional people like them, let’s keep working hard while telling ourselves that we can at least become “pretty attractive, maybe…” (笑)