This is about the length of dates after the second meeting.
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They usually send me possible dates for our next date about a week in advance.
I meet this person when they come here on business trips.
If I only find out about a week in advance, my part-time work schedule has already been finalized. Also, since I’m a student, I sometimes have to go to university even on weekends. It takes about an hour to get to our meeting place, so once I factor in the trip home, it’s difficult to set aside a long period of time.
They ask me, “Can’t you stay a little longer?” I’d also like to meet their expectations if possible, since they’re taking the time to see me, but…
In a situation like this, what can I do to make them happy even if we only have a short time together?
I’d also appreciate hearing from any female members who handle situations like this.
Thank you.
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I’m always a little curious when someone says it’s only a week in advance. What kind of job involves business trips being decided just one week ahead?
As everyone has mentioned, in my case too, the woman gives me a few possible dates, and we arrange our schedule for the following month.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well.
I think it would be best to let him know in advance when your work shift will be finalized, and arrange things so that you can keep that day open as long as it’s at least two days beforehand.
I assume the business trip hasn’t been decided by then, but it may be a good idea to tentatively set the date at that point.
Since you’ll probably know about a week in advance, you’ll be able to spend a long time together if everything goes ahead as planned. If the schedule changes before the day arrives, you can simply meet for the usual amount of time instead. I think he’ll understand that it can’t always be helped.
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I’m Rula, a male member of UC and a member of the new salon.
I agree with what the other respondents have said. From a slightly different perspective, if it seems difficult to arrange longer in-person dates, perhaps you could help the man get to know you better by replying more promptly to his LINE messages and emails when you’re apart, and making the content a little more personal and intimate.
I think it’s also worth making the time you spend apart more fulfilling to make up for any dissatisfaction with the time you spend together.
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I’m a male member in Seattle.
Since a man’s goal is usually what you’d expect, I think he’d be pleased if you said:
“I don’t need dinner—would you like to go straight to a hotel? I’d like to stay there as long as possible.”
If that doesn’t work, you’ll just have to accept that the time together may be brief.
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