I’m a female beginner who joined about 2–3 months ago.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. Once you’re hidden, the other person won’t be able to see you at all. It’s essentially the same as withdrawing from the site. That said, I don’t think it’s a good idea to lie and tell them you’ve withdrawn. As for what to do, there was once a politician who became famous for saying, “I have no recollection.” The idea was that lying could get you in trouble, but if you genuinely had no memory of something, there was nothing you could answer—and you could always claim later that you remembered. It was a pretty sneaky strategy, but you might want to use that as a reference. Something like: “Have I disappeared from your member list? I wonder why. I’m not really sure. Nothing has changed on my screen.” might work too. That said, even if it’s only once a month, if you’re receiving over ¥500,000 per month, I can understand why the man might feel that way. How much are you receiving?

I’m Rula, a male UC member and a member of the new salon. I also don’t think it’s gentlemanly to feel jealous over a monthly arrangement. In my case, even if I don’t see the woman I’m dating at all that month, I give her enough money to live comfortably for the entire month. *Though she’s the only one in a special category, haha.* Otherwise, I don’t think I’d have the right to ask her to focus exclusively on me. In the world of dating clubs, there are many situations where “honesty driven by guilt or a sense of justice is nothing more than self-satisfaction.” If a lie allows both people to be happy in the moment, perhaps this is a world where that can be considered more virtuous than telling the whole truth. Generally speaking, relationships through dating clubs aren’t assumed to last for the extremely long term, unlike marriage. They will end someday. That’s why I think it’s best to handle things wisely so that both people can enjoy the present. That said, although it may be rare, if the relationship goes beyond the usual framework of a dating club and genuinely develops toward marriage, then I think the right thing to do is to face each other sincerely and honestly, without lies.

30s, new member here. I agree with Seattle. I think it’s embarrassing to get jealous over a once-a-month arrangement, too. If you hide your profile, he won’t be able to see you and will probably assume you’ve left the club. You could simply tell him, “I left because I want to focus on you,” and if he’s that kind of person, he’d probably be pleased. I don’t think there’s anything wrong with being a little strategic about making your partner happy in the club scene.

I’m Date◎Yume, a male member. I completely understand that you need support. At the same time, I also understand the male member’s feelings of jealousy. First, both parties need to understand the basic system of the dating club before entering into an arrangement. In this case, the male member should either provide the level of support the woman is seeking, actively support her promotional activities if he can’t provide enough support, or, at the very least, tacitly accept them. The woman, on the other hand, also needs to consider whether she absolutely needs additional support on top of what she is currently receiving. If she concludes that she does, there may be ways to raise funds outside the dating club as well. > It is also possible to hide your profile from specific individuals. Those individuals would no longer be able to view the woman’s profile and would likely assume that she had either withdrawn or gone on hiatus. For technical details, it would be best to contact the branch you belong to.

I’m a male member based in Seattle. As far as I know, it should look to that person as though you’ve completely withdrawn from the service. If you only meet once a month, you really have no right to be jealous. If he doesn’t like the idea, he needs to negotiate an allowance generous enough that she won’t need to look for anyone else.