I’m a female member! I feel like many of the men who come into town on business are a bit pushy. Has anyone else had the same experience?

I’m in my 30s and a new member. I do think some men tend to treat women carelessly when meeting them while traveling for work. Since they assume they’ll never meet again, they may feel that they can’t hold back their desires—or that they want to try things they normally feel too self-conscious to do, even if it means being disliked. If more gentlemanly male members joined, situations like that might become less common. But when arranging a meeting with a man who’s traveling for work, it may be best to stay especially mindful of your own safety and have the courage to say no to anything you’re uncomfortable with. As for the allowance, even if you receive it upfront, dealing with someone who has such poor manners could still become awkward after you refuse. So rather than focusing on payment, I think it’s better to state your terms in advance—what you’re willing to do and what you aren’t. That way, the man can accept it more easily and there’s less chance of trouble.

I’m Joe, a column writer. I basically only use it when I’m traveling for work. I’ve been reflecting on whether that might be a bit presumptuous. That said, if by “presumptuous” you mean “nama” or “toys,” that doesn’t apply to me. For me, “nama” means nama momiji—the souvenir I often bring along.

I’m Saito, a columnist♪ Women are far more uncomfortable with reusing toys than men might think. So, rather than reusing them, I believe the considerate thing to do is open the package in front of her and either give it to her for her own use or dispose of it afterward. It’s less about being on a business trip and more about making sure she doesn’t start feeling entitled. It reminded me of something I once heard from a certain gold-level woman: “Men receive ¥100,000 each time when they’re on business trips.” When I asked which hotel they stayed at, she replied, “Super Hotel.” I seriously searched it, wondering what kind of luxury hotel it was—that was an amusing experience. After we parted ways having only talked, I received a message the next day saying, “I’d be happy to meet even for ¥50,000,” offering a discount. It seems everyone is doing their best.

Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. I don’t think people change just because they’re on a business trip. They’d probably behave the same way in their hometown, so I think it simply comes down to that person’s character. When someone calls them “used toys,” I do feel sorry for the men who are then expected to buy something new every time. Still, if that’s how women feel, men should prioritize their feelings and show that consideration—such as bringing a brand-new one each time and opening it in front of her. > “I assume I’d still receive my allowance even if I stopped partway through?” If you decide to leave partway through—before anything happens—I think you should assume you won’t receive the allowance. That said, you don’t need to simply go along with everything. “I don’t want to do it without protection. (I’m okay with it if a condom is used.)” “I don’t want to use a toy that’s been used with someone else. (A new one is fine.)” You should clearly state things like this, and there’s no need to compromise on them. As a result, there is a greater chance that the arrangement will end without you receiving the allowance. Even so, to protect your own body—or your feelings—you should think carefully in advance about what you are and aren’t comfortable with. When things end under circumstances like these, the man may send the club feedback saying that the woman suddenly left partway through or that she was terrible. So, just in case, please send the club feedback beforehand explaining what happened—for example, “The arrangement ended after I declined sex without protection.” That way, the club can recognize that the man only reported the parts that were convenient for him.