Do you understand the mindset of a man who invites me out to eat so often, but then says things like, “Maybe I’ll cheat on you” or “Maybe I’ll make an offer to another girl” whenever we meet?
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At first, I could just brush it off, but even after six months, he still says it every time, and it makes me feel awful.
We used to meet quite often, but he says it so much that I feel like I’m starting to lose the desire to see him.
I’ve tried various things, like acting sad or getting angry, but nothing has worked. I’d appreciate some advice on what I could say to make him stop saying these things… I really don’t understand his mindset.
I’m in my 30s and new here.
I agree with the answers already given.
Or maybe he’s saying something like that to get you to say, “Please make me your only one,” and then use that to demand more than before—or try to lower your allowance. That crossed my mind, but honestly, I can’t understand why some men would deliberately make a woman uncomfortable.
Men who can’t understand or pick up on their partner’s feelings are stressful to deal with seriously, so I just write it off as “a mild developmental disorder in an adult” and avoid engaging with them directly.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here with an answer as well.
I think he probably wants to brag about being popular, and he enjoys seeing how you react when he says those things.
It’s kind of like how elementary school kids tease the person they like.
Figuring out what you could say to make him stop would be quite difficult. I think that’s simply the kind of person he is.
Unfortunately, you may just not be compatible, so I think you’d be better off looking for someone new.
As a last resort, you could try sending him this:
“Every time we meet, you say things like, ‘Maybe I’ll cheat on you,’ or ‘Maybe I’ll make an offer to another girl.’ It hurts to hear that, so I can’t see you anymore.”
It might improve things temporarily, but there’s also a chance that this could end the relationship altogether.
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I’m Seattle, a male member.
He’s clearly an immature papa who gets pleasure out of making you jealous.
Just treat him as a wallet and focus your efforts on finding someone else. Or say this to him once, with a serious expression:
“I’m telling you this because I want you to remain a wonderful man. Please stop pushing it. I’ll end up disliking you and not wanting to see you anymore.”
You have to be direct. If that doesn’t work, he’s hopeless—consider him nothing more than a wallet.
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