It hasn’t even been a month since I registered, but thankfully, I’ve already received several offers.
My plans are still a little way off, so I haven’t met anyone yet. Before meeting them, though, I’ve been adding comments in the hope that they’ll get to know me a little better and that we might find things we have in common or topics to talk about. I knew that editing my profile would make it appear at the top of the site, but while reading the Q&A section, I came across a male member’s comment saying that it might give the impression that, “Even though she’s already received an offer, is she still looking for men?” Now I’m a little worried that I might be making the people who kindly offered to meet me uncomfortable.
Men, would you feel uncomfortable if a woman you had offered to meet frequently updated her comments or profile?
Women, I’d also appreciate hearing what you’re careful about before receiving or accepting offers!
Thank you in advance.
Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here.
At the offer stage, you still don’t know whether you’ll be compatible with the man, so I think it’s fine to update it.
The issue comes when you become compatible with a man in terms of personality and terms of the arrangement, and the relationship becomes long-term. In that case, the man may not be happy about it.
However, it can be concerning because a relationship may suddenly end, whether you have one arrangement or two. For that reason, you may not want other men to see it.
If that’s the case, please consult with our staff.
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A Confused Woman in Her 60s
What’s the purpose of updating your profile?
For men who have made you an offer—especially those who have their profiles public—it might make them wonder, “Huh? Was I not good enough?”
If you add a note in the comments like, “I’d like you to get to know me better, so I’ve added a little more information that I didn’t include before,” I think the men you’ll be meeting from now on will feel reassured.
A little while ago, perhaps just a matter of timing, several women I was continuing to see updated their profiles or re-registered and appeared at the top the day after our dates. I didn’t ask them about it on our subsequent dates, and they didn’t say anything either. I suppose that’s just how it is... lol
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member.
> It hasn’t even been a month since I joined.
> I’ve been adding to my posts because I thought it might help people get to know me a little before we meet, and help us find common interests or things to talk about.
Since you only recently joined, I think adding to your posts is perfectly fine.
However—
> “It gives the impression that, even though I’m making an offer, you’re still looking for other men.”
Although you haven’t met anyone yet,
this club doesn’t discourage people from dating multiple partners,
but I can certainly see why someone might feel that way.
It’s a very tricky area.
After adding several updates in a row, it might be best to wait and see how things go for a while.
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