Tips Oct 21, 2019 20:29

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Apparently, these days women in particular post about their activities at dating clubs on Twitter, with stories, photos, and so on. But isn't it rude to pull out your phone during those important moments on a date to take pictures or post some meaningless chatter? When I'm on a date through this club, I feel it's disrespectful to take out my phone in front of someone older than me, and it completely ruins the atmosphere, so I try not to take it out unless we're exchanging contact information. But with dating clubs becoming more casual these days, is the etiquette different now? Snap—a photo when the food arrives. Snap—another when I receive a gift. Snap—one more while looking at the night view. Snap—again when toasting with wine. Even as a woman, I find it rather unpleasant to watch other women acting like slaves to their phones, constantly thinking about what to post on social media. Whether male or female, someone who says, “I’m not on social media,” seems less like a cookie-cutter type and is much more intriguing to me.
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Maezawa from the Corporate Planning Office here as well. For example, even if the woman I’m on a date with gets excited about the food and takes a picture of it, I’d just think, “I guess she was really happy about it,” and wouldn’t find it particularly rude. Besides, most women probably ask, “Is it okay if I take a picture?” before doing so. I don’t think I’d feel uncomfortable with someone being that considerate. If anything, I’d find it kind of endearing. I would be put off if she were using her phone for other things, but when she’s taking a photo, it actually shows that she’s enjoying herself, so I think it’s a good thing. That said, too much of a good thing can be a bad thing, so taking too many photos isn’t ideal either… The best women, in my opinion, are those who take pictures smoothly and discreetly. Incidentally, when I see a woman carefully working out the angle and composition of her food photos, I can’t help thinking, “She really knows what she’s doing.” If she could handle the lighting too, she’d give professional food photographers a run for their money. Having someone shine a light on me would be annoying, though. It would be amazing if they came out with a small light that didn’t bother anyone.
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I’m Saito, the column writer♪ Just as Powerfu-san says, I feel like there’s no future in it. That said, when it comes to women in the entertainment industry, I also understand how important numbers like follower counts can be, regardless of the content. There was a time when secretly knowing that I was behind those meals with celebrities was a private thrill I couldn’t tell anyone about. These days, though, I choose venues—restaurants where filming is allowed—for the sake of creating content. In that respect, they’re also very mindful of etiquette and considerate of others, taking care not to make the people around them uncomfortable. Since they have to make the most of a short amount of time and accomplish two or even three things at once, only the smart women remain when it comes to supporting them. As you say, Questioner, I think around 70% of them probably make people uncomfortable.
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I’m Seattle, a male member. I’ll sometimes take photos together of the main dish or an elaborate dessert if it comes up naturally in the conversation. Personally, it doesn’t really bother me. It’s also fun to look up details about whatever we’re talking about on our phones together—it gives the conversation more room to develop. Whether you’re looking at your phone or not, I guess the key is simply not to overdo it.
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I’m だて◎ゆめ, a male member. > When I’m on a date through this club, I feel it’s rude to take out my phone in front of someone older than me, and it ruins the atmosphere, so I try not to take it out unless we’re exchanging contact information. But now that dating clubs have become more casual, is it different? I don’t particularly like taking out my phone to show photos, either. When I’m on a date, I want my partner to face me directly. Sometimes I wonder if they’d rather look at the food or the night view than at me. It’s true that I might not be as delicious as the food, and I may not be as captivating as the night view, but still… > I find people who say, “I’m not on social media,” more intriguing, whether they’re men or women, because they don’t seem like mass-produced types. I agree(笑)
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